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Yes, It’s Time to Leave the Past Behind  

Your career and confidence shouldn’t have to suffer anymore.

It’s amazing how one small comment at the beginning of your career can have an unprecedented impact on your actions from that point onwards – especially if the comment came from an authority figure or someone you respect. You see, we are limited by the stories we play in our own minds.

If we don’t spot them and resolve them, they become the narrative that plays on repeat and holds us back. Early in my career, I sold software in London. I had a female boss who was nothing short of a bully. She favoured the boys in the team, gave me menial tasks, regularly put me down, and reprimanded me in front of the office. Her overall leadership skills were questionable.

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I will never forget the day she called me into the office and said, “Go and grow the Middle East market. Make it work or I will have no choice but to get rid of you.” I still recall the shock and fear that ran through my body at that moment. I felt sick to my stomach. My career and that job was everything to me, but she had tried to set me up to fail. I had never even been to Dubai before, and yet she wanted me to fly over with a laptop, all alone, and ‘make it work’ – or risk losing my job!

What she didn’t realise is that I thrived under pressure and, with the fear of being jobless, I had two choices. Option one: defeat. Let her win and become jobless? I think not! Option two was really my only option. I got a plan together, utilised resources such as LinkedIn, and somehow made it work. In hindsight, the task was unachievable and somewhat spiteful, but what followed was a beautiful ending. Not only did I make a mark in the Middle East, but my appetite for Dubai also grew. After a while, I left my old job and rainy London, and moved to Dubai. My journey wasn’t without its challenges, but now, eight years later, I have my own rapidly growing business that focuses on empowering women.

But how did I get there? Let’s go back to my previous story. For my first trip alone, I had managed to organise over 25 new business meetings. I think my boss was amazed. I was a business development professional and used to sales pitches, but not conducting large, stand-up presentations to groups. Oh, the nerves! My palms used to sweat profusely and my voice would quiver at first. My female boss ‘coached’ me (or in other words, bully me) in preparation for this trip. She repeatedly told me, “You will never be really very good at this. You shouldn’t present to or address an audience.”

The truth was that, yes, I was nervous and not that polished, but I was no way near useless. I needed coaching to be better. No one starts something and is automatically good at it! That one single comment not only smacked me across the face, but also sunk so deep into my DNA that it took me years to break through it. Imagine how damaging it must have been to a young woman carving out her career, how demotivating it must have been to hear that as I was about to leave for a foreign country. I am not sure she ever even realised the bullying she subjected me to.

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The point is, I adopted the belief that I was useless at presenting and should never speak in public because of her comments. Whenever an opportunity arose in my career for speaking or presenting, I would shy away and say, “I’m not good at presenting and speaking. It’s something I can’t do.” That narrative stuck, on repeat for years and years, after that ordeal. But by working with inspiring leaders who taught me to believe in myself, I eventually overcame this limiting belief and, ironically, I now not only act as a keynote speaker, but also moderate panels and lead my own events as a motivational speaker. I even coach other women on how to present with impact! I overcame the limiting belief, broke the pattern, and rose to the challenge.

It’s imperative that we leave the past behind. I work closely with women to uncover their limiting beliefs, negative narratives, and the fear instilled in them that hold them back. Often, many women don’t even realise they have a limiting belief or where it first originated. We can drift through life not even knowing what holds us back. When I first sit with a client, I listen with intent. I repeatedly hear statements like “I can’t do that because…” and “The market is saturated, and they are better than me…”. In truth, these are stories made up in our own heads and from our past experience. This single-handidly will hold you back, keeping you playing small and not reading your full potential.

How can we take ownership of our lives and leave the past behind?

Try this transformative exercise. Set aside some time, grab a notebook and pen, and get honest. Ask yourself:

What do I need to leave behind? 

Dig deep. Did a teacher make a throwaway comment about you not being good at something? Did a parent criticise you for not being good enough? Did an old boss or authority figure mislead you into thinking you couldn’t achieve something?

What thoughts, self-judgment, and littleness is holding me back? What stories have I got on repeat in my mind?

Once you’ve written down the answers, it’s time to replace your ‘I can’t’ with ‘I can, and I will.’ Replace your limiting beliefs with new empowering beliefs. Always remember, what the mind can conceive and believe, it can achieve. If you tell yourself that you can, you’re halfway there! 

Emma Burdett is holding a WILD Woman Transformational Leadership Day this March for women who are ready to achieve new levels of success. Go to wildwomenlead.com to learn more.


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Unlocking Prosperity: Three Fundamental Money Principles for Abundant Living

Wealth Unveiled: Prosperity Principles

Money affects every part of our lives. It can bring joy and security, but it can also bring stress and worry. As women, we tend to have a different relationships with money. One thing is certain though: We all want to live a life of abundance and prosperity. Here are some “Money Principles” are not just theoretical concepts, but practical guidelines that can and should be applied in our daily lives to manage our finances effectively. Let’s create a positive relationship with money.

Understanding the dynamics of money and how it works is the first step towards achieving financial prosperity. Firstly, money, in itself, is not the end goal, but a means to an end. It is a tool that can provide us with the resources we need to live a fulfilling life. However, without the right knowledge and understanding, money mismanaged can be a huge blow to our dreams and sustainability. Therefore, it is crucial to learn and understand these fundamental money principles.

The Importance of Money Principles

Money principles serve as a guide for our financial decisions and actions. It’s about creating a framework for managing our finances effectively and responsibly and help us make informed decisions that align with our financial goals and values.

Its imperative we develop a healthy relationship with money. Instead of viewing money as a source of stress or worry, we can see it as a tool without our emotional involvement. Once we remove anger, fear, lack and other negative feelings from the equation, a shift is created in our energy field. This shift in perspective can have a profound impact on our financial well-being and overall quality of life. It can help us overcome financial challenges, achieve our financial goals, and live a life of abundance and prosperity.

The Three Fundamental Money Principles

Principle 1: Spend Less Than You Earn

This may seem like an obvious principle, but it is one that many people struggle with. As of today, we are an out-and-out consumer-driven society. This is an easy trap for anyone to fall into leading to overspending and living beyond their means. This is how one gets sucked into financial stress and debt, hindering our ability to live a life of abundance. It is therefore crucial to develop the discipline to spend less than we earn and live within our means.

The first step to implementing this principle is to create a budget. This involves tracking your income and expenses and setting limits for your spending. It may require making sacrifices and cutting back on unnecessary expenses, but it is crucial for living within your means and avoiding debt. A budget not only helps us control our spending but also gives us a clear picture of our financial situation, enabling us to make informed financial decisions.

Another important aspect of this principle is to save and invest wisely. By setting aside a portion of your income for savings and investments, you are not only preparing for the future but also creating a safety net for unexpected expenses. This can also help you achieve long-term financial goals, such as buying a house or retiring comfortably. Think about building wealth over time.

Principle 2: Give Generously

What goes out must come in! True prosperity is not just about accumulating wealth, but also about sharing it and using it to improve the lives of others. We are not talking about just giving to charity, but also being generous with our time, talents, and resources. It encourages us to share what we have with others and use our resources to make a positive impact in the world.

Giving generously not only benefits others but also brings blessings and abundance into our own lives. It helps us cultivate a mindset of abundance and gratitude, and reminds us that we have more than enough to share with others. By giving generously, we also contribute to creating a more just and equitable society, which ultimately benefits everyone. Give that tip to your hairdresser, sponsor a kid, help out a local charity in UAE.

Principle 3: Seek Wisdom and Guidance

The final fundamental money principle is to seek wisdom and guidance when it comes to managing our finances. This can involve seeking advice from financial experts in the UAE, reading books and articles on personal finance, or even seeking guidance from religious or spiritual leaders. This principle encourages us to continuously learn and grow in our understanding of money and financial management.

When we learn from the experiences and knowledge of others it also helps us stay accountable and motivated in our financial journey.


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