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Who’s That Dubai Girl?

Hint: you can sit with us.

This last year has undoubtedly been the strangest one yet – a rollercoaster combination of time dragging hideously slowly, then rocketing at breakneck speed. Like seriously, how is it almost June when it seems like January was yesterday? 

But in those mad few months since the pandemic took hold, forcing the world to adapt to new ways of doing absolutely everything, the UAE’s entrepreneurial spirit has never been more alive. With new start-ups emerging as one of the few silver linings of the COVID-19 crisis and social media exploding like never before, That Dubai Girl – a Facebook community group created by Kirsty Campbell in June 2020 to connect, support, and champion women across the city – has become one of the country’s most talked-about success stories. 

With 2,500+ active members on the That Dubai Girl app, more than 12,500 members on Facebook, and over 11,000 Instagram followers, Kirsty’s goal of building a community of women who genuinely have one another’s backs has developed into a brand that not only advises and supports female entrepreneurs, but also local businesses looking to start, build, grow and connect with other like-minded individuals in the UAE. 

Here to make an impact, work closely with talented local entrepreneurs to ensure they have a platform that showcases their business, and create a safe place for women to share information and ideas, That Dubai Girl now offers a variety of services, including the hugely popular Urban Market and monthly friendship events. They’re all designed to perpetuate a ‘good vibes only’ ethos in what can often be a social media minefield of ‘Mean Girl’ style cattiness and mindless trolling. As Kirsty celebrates the first anniversary of That Dubai Girl with her team, The Gaggler meets the woman for whom championing girl power is not a marketing gimmick – it’s a way of life.

Q

That Dubai Girl’s social media presence grew very quickly. What tips can you give to other women who want to expand their business through social media?

A

It’s important to develop a consistent messaging style. That means delivering engaging and relatable content – essentially knowing your audience. Always think: what value am I offering with this post? If it isn’t entertaining, emotive, eye-catching, or informative, it shouldn’t be posted. Using sponsored adverts with the correct targeting is a great way to help build your following, too. 

Giving our members exclusive offers and discounts has definitely helped our social channels grow as quickly as they have. In Dubai, we all have super busy and fast-paced lives, so everyone’s always looking for the most convenient and cost-effective way to spend their hard-earned money.

Q

What makes That Dubai Girl different from other community groups in Dubai? 

A

We’re an inclusive community that strives to embrace and celebrate cultural differences. The only requirement we have is that members must be women over the age of 18 who are based in the UAE (or soon to be). One of our core values is supporting small local businesses, and we aim to give them a platform to promote themselves through our online community, exclusive members app, and our events portfolio, including The Urban Market, which has already hosted over 2,000 visitors despite launching in April 2021.

The UAE is home to such a wide variety of cultures and nationalities, and that inevitably results in vibrant, diverse businesses that add so much to this economy. We work closely with some hugely talented and ambitious entrepreneurs and aspire to give them a platform to show what they’ve got to offer. 

Q

That Dubai Girl started as a Facebook community group. Why did you decide to branch out into organising events, including your now well-known pop-up markets?

A

We’re always looking at ways we can grow and evolve as a business, as well as how we can support our members. We have a huge number of business owners as part of our community, so creating physical events that complement our online following seemed to be a natural progression of the brand. That Dubai Girl represents bringing people together, both physically and digitally.

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Why is supporting female-owned businesses so important?

A

Supporting female-owned businesses does so much good – empowerment of women is a huge driver of economic growth as well as social equality. We live in a country that supports female empowerment, and that’s something we should take full advantage of. That Dubai Girl was established as a community that would support, not undermine, women. I want that ethos to transfer across our community and events. 

It doesn’t take a huge effort to support women entrepreneurs. Aside from actually buying products or services, you can help support local businesses for free in so many ways – even something as simple as liking or sharing a social media post, tagging a friend to broaden someone’s network, or telling a friend. All these things add up and can make a difference to someone’s business. 

Q

That Dubai Girl has expanded exponentially in the last 12 months. What are some of the roadblocks you’ve faced, and how did you overcome them?

A

We’ve had some events that have worked fantastically, and others that have not been as successful, but everything is a learning experience. We always look at what worked well, but more importantly, what we could’ve done better so we can continue to improve and grow as a brand – and make our next event a success! We’re still a new business, learning each and every day, so we always encourage constructive feedback.

Q

Creating a business in Dubai is a journey. What tips can you give to women trying to create a business?

A

Take the opportunity and go for it! You never know if you will get the chance to give it a go again. Expand your network, talk to people, and do as much learning as possible. We definitely recommend doing your research and having some sort of social media strategy because this is really important. There really isn’t a need to hire experts and spend loads on graphics – we know lots of ladies who have built everything, including their websites, from scratch themselves! Canva is also a brilliant tool for creating solid social content.

Q

Tell us more about the upcoming Small Business & Entrepreneurs Networking Event and why all potential entrepreneurs in Dubai should attend?

A

We know just how overwhelming it can be to start your own business and how difficult it can be to find answers to the simplest questions. This event gives everyone the opportunity to find out information from industry experts on licensing, bank accounts, payment portals, social media, and so much more. They’ll be short Q&A sessions featuring all our guest speakers to assist you with any challenges you may be facing. There will also be a networking dinner, which is a great opportunity to have discussions with other business owners and expand your business network. 

Q

What’s next for That Dubai Girl?

A

We’re just about to launch a new pop-up concept store! More information about this will be explained via our Instagram account soon, but it’s another opportunity for us to showcase the amazing creative talents and small businesses we have in Dubai. We have so many exciting ideas for the next few months… watch this space!

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Talking Sustainabili-tea with Laura Erguy

The co-founder of Namastea on searching for some of the best tea in the world.

As tea consumption continues to rise, many brands are looking for ways to modernise the traditional beverage. With increasing populations plus disposable income and a penchant for the Instagrammable, a key driver behind increased tea consumption in the Middle East has been boba tea. But that doesn’t mean traditional tea is on the way out; the reality is quite the opposite: the Middle East and Africa are the world’s second-largest consumers of tea, after Asia Pacific, with black tea coming out as a strong preference, as well as teas geared towards health and wellness.

One such brand is Namastea, dedicated to providing the highest quality tea available to the Gulf region with an eye trained firmly on the future. “Tea is an old and traditional beverage with a lot of existing brands. Our main challenge is to modernise its consumption and educate our consumers on the different options out there,” says co-founder Laura Erguy. We spoke with Erguy to find out more.

Chasing the Premium

“We realised that most teas in the Middle East were often lower quality than what we could find elsewhere and consumers did not know the many benefits of tea,” shared Laura. “So, we decided to source the best teas and really put the focus on each blend[‘s] main ingredients to highlight their benefits on our wellbeing, while maintaining an affordable price and cute packaging.”

Aimed at young, health-conscious tea drinkers, Erguy is on a mission to provide a premium tea and promote a healthier lifestyle. “We would like our customers to appreciate our level of quality and feel part of a healthy community with our brand.”

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Good Morning Energizing Loose Tea

AED 40.00

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Midnight Rendez Vous Rejuvenating Loose Tea

AED 44.00

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AED 44.00

And the effort shows through. Just as single-origin coffees tend to have a distinct, exotic taste that is bolder and more robust in comparison to blends, Erguy — who co-founded Namastea with her sister almost four years ago — revealed all Namastea teas are sourced exclusively from Sri Lanka, one of the world’s top producers of tea. “Sri Lanka is the only country in the world to function with an auction system that ensures that every single batch of tea produced is checked, ensuring consistency, transparency, and homogeneity of the products.”

“Sri Lanka is also the first and only country to have received a global ozone-friendly certification thanks to their sustainable production methods.”

The Power of Sustainability

Originally from France, the Erguy sisters founded Namastea out of a love for Sri Lanka and its tea, and a desire to share it with their world. “We both started our careers in the cosmetic and pharmaceutical industries. After many trips to Sri Lanka, we discovered the incredible health benefits of tea and realised that this was often unknown or not fully understood. We decided to create a modern and colourful brand to modernise this ancient beverage, as well as focus on its incredible powers.”

The sailing distance from Sri Lanka to the Gulf region is usually between one to three days, meaning the tea’s footprint from food miles is drastically reduced too. “Our teas have not traveled the world before reaching your cup,” says Erguy. Apart from sourcing sustainably-produced tea, Namastea’s teabags are fully compostable and biodegradable; plus, all the flavours are 100% natural and fruit-based, with special limited editions as well as an ever-expanding lineup.

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Tea Bags

AED 20.00

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Pretty Berry Rejuvenating Tea Bags

AED 20.00

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NAMASTEA

Sweet Dreams
Tea Bags

AED 20.00

“We started with only loose leaf teas, but gradually introduced a teabag as well in order to cater supermarkets’ needs and [offer] more convenience for some of our consumers,” says Erguy. “Our favourite tea is Pretty Berry,” says Laura, “because it is a unique creation in our range that you would not find in any other brands. It has a very tasty flavour, almost like a candy (without the guilt) and can be drunk cold or hot.”

According to Erguy, the unique natural flavours added to the tea blends can last up to three years, though she recommends consuming the teas long before then. “The natural flavours added to the blend tend to disappear after that period. However, the tea itself does not expire and will still be safe to drink after three years.”

By providing consumers with the highest quality tea from Sri Lanka, Namastea is helping to modernise the traditional beverage and educate consumers on the different options available.

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The Secret to Taking Yourself to the Next Level

The art of public speaking.

Do you have the goal, the vision, the desire to be highly successful in your career or business in 2023?

If this is on your agenda, then you have probably worked on improving your professional skills and getting the certifications you need, and no doubt you’ll have considered the connections you need to take the next step. But have you also looked at and worked enough on your so-called ‘soft skills’?

There is one area that is incredibly important for anyone who wants to become extremely successful, and that is your communication, public speaking and presentation skills.

You may have heard this quote from Warren Buffet before: “The one skill to improve your value by 50 percent is public speaking.”

Well, it is true.

In my public speaking workshops, I always ask my audiences the following question:

“Imagine you are the best communicator in your team, will it have an impact on your career?”

The audience always answers: “Yes!”

“Imagine you are the best communicator in your company, will it have an impact on your career?”

The audience answers: “Yes, 100%!”

“Imagine you are the best communicator in your industry, will it have an impact on your career?”

The audience answers: “Yes, without a doubt!”

After we have established the impact that outstanding public speaking skills can have on your success, it is time to believe that you can improve and that all starts with a growth mindset. “To be a great champion you must believe you are the best. If you’re not, pretend you are,” as said Muhammad Ali.

And public speaking is a skill that can be learned — I have seen it countless times how people that work hard and challenge themselves become exceptional speakers. It is possible.

Becoming a great speaker is a honed skill like becoming a martial arts black belt. You need to practice with discipline, be dedicated to learning techniques, to test them in training, and do this over and over again until you are ready to become a ‘black belt.’ So how can you take your communication skills to the next level and ace any presentation in the boardroom and even on the big stage?

There are many ways to achieve excellence in communication, whether you study at home and apply the knowledge you learned in the field, join a public speaking training organisation like Toastmasters, or work with a public speaking coach. Here are a few ways anyone can improve their skills no matter where you are on your journey.

Represent

The first building block to winning communication is to represent. This idea can be applied to your message and your delivery.

As a communicator it is your job to share your message in a way that enables the audience to represent your message in another setting to others. Therefore, you must tell your message in a way that is relatable, logical (for the audience), and memorable.

Very often, professionals are told they only have two or three slides, or a short speaking slot. As a result, the presenter puts as much content as possible on these few slides, making it a cluttered mess with the main message unclear. The audience is not able to memorise what was really important.

Having an overarching key message and a concise take-away is what will ensure your content is represented impactfully to others. And don’t fill your slides with words.

The other aspect of Represent is to help the audience to remember you. Think about a pitch setting where multiple companies are presenting their solutions to one potential client. After four or five presentations, it becomes difficult to remember everyone, but a strong individual that dares to stand out of the crowd will be remembered. Like it or not, it starts with your appearance. My afro, for example, is my key trademark and it makes it easy for people to remember me because very few people have this hairstyle. It might be the clothes you wear that make you memorable. The occasion might demand a suit but maybe you can play with colour or cut.

But above all, audiences will remember an authentic delivery. Focus less on perfection and more on being yourself — not just the corporate version of you. This will ensure your audience goes out and Represents your message.

Presentainment

Walt Disney used this term in the 1950s because he understood that media which educates through entertainment is more effective than boring education materials. You can use this approach in the business world. Almost every presentation aims to educate and share new information, so ask yourself: How can I add a layer of entertainment to this content?

It is very important to clarify here that entertainment is not just humour. While humour is a great tool, entertainment is so much more: storytelling, audience interaction — anything that brings a wow factor to your content.

If you aren’t sure how to do this — ask your team! There is nothing wrong with brainstorming how to incorporate a wow-factor moment. Together you can find the best stories that add value, or ideate how to create a memorable audience interaction. You might be presenting on your own, but presentation preparation need not be a solo job.

Connaction

Connaction is fusion of connection and action.

Many speakers fail to connect with the audience, meaning all they have said is swiftly forgotten and, sometimes, they are not even aware of what it means to create a connection with the audience. We have all observed speakers walking up and down the stage looking at the floor but never at the audience, or with their back towards the audience because they are only looking and talking at the screen. Sometimes, presentations only focus on the professional content but neglect the need for an emotional connection.

An authentic delivery, strong eye contact, open body language, telling personal stories, audience interaction, and talking with (and not just to) the audience are some techniques to make sure that you are turning a monologue into a dialogue. All seasoned presenters understand the importance of connecting with an audience to demand and retain their attention.

One of my favourite philosophies is: “Every speech is an opportunity to inspire.”

We should always strive to inspire action — to encourage the audience to act and look at situations differently. No matter how big or small the stage, how young or old the audience, they all deserve to see the best version of yourself that creates a magical connection and achieves the desired outcome.

There you have it, my three approaches — Represent, Presentainment, and Connaction — that lead to a wealth of ideas to take your public speaking and presentation skills to the next level!

Flo Akinbiyi is a communication specialist: a presenter, public speaker, and communication coach. Check out his free course, 5 Public Speaking Strategies from World Class Leaders, where he explains the art of effective public speaking in more detail.

This article is for informational purposes only. It is not, nor is it intended to be, a substitute for professional business/career advice or diagnosis and should never be relied upon for specific business/career advice. To the extent that this article features the advice of professionals, the views expressed are the views of the cited expert and do not necessarily represent the views of The Gaggler.

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A Beginner’s Guide to Meditation at Home

Everything you need to successfully start meditating at home.

In our fast-paced, constantly-connected world, finding ways to relax and de-stress is more important than ever. We’re constantly bombarded with notifications, emails, and calls, and finding a moment of peace can be tough. That’s where meditation comes in.

If you’re new to meditation or have been meaning to start a regular practice but don’t know where to begin, this guide is for you. Meditation is a brief respite from the chaos of the world, a chance to clear your mind and just be. 

The practice of meditation can take many forms, but the goal is always the same: to still the mind and achieve a state of relaxation. And the benefits are well worth the effort. Studies have shown that meditation can help to reduce stress and anxiety, improve sleep, and boost cognitive performance.

Getting Started with Meditation

One of the great things about meditation is that it can be done anywhere, anytime. That said, finding a space in your home that is quiet, comfortable, and free from distractions is important. If possible, try to find a room or area that you can dedicate solely to meditation; that way, whenever you enter that space, your mind will automatically begin to calm down and centre itself. 

If you don’t have an entire room you can use for meditation, that’s perfectly fine — any quiet corner will do. Just make sure to remove any clutter or distractions from your chosen space before starting your session. You might also want to dim the lights or light some candles to create a peaceful atmosphere. Finally, sit comfortably on the floor or in a chair with your spine straight and your eyes closed. Once you’re settled in, you’re ready to begin meditating.

When it comes to forming new habits, one of the most important things is consistency. The same goes for meditation. To make meditation a part of your daily routine, aim to meditate at the same time each day. That could be first thing in the morning before starting your day, during your lunch break at work, or right before bedtime. 

It’s also helpful to keep things simple in the beginning. Don’t try to meditate for hours on end; start with just five or 10 minutes of mindfulness each day. As you get more comfortable with the practice, you can gradually increase the length of your sessions. 

Remember: the goal is not necessarily to reach some higher state of consciousness; simply being present and aware of your thoughts and surroundings is enough. 

The Gaggler Picks for Top Meditation Essentials

To further set the mood, the Gaggler lists all the essential items to help you get started on your journey to enlightenment.

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PALM LIGHTS

7 Chakra Candle Tealights

AED 180.00

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SAANTE

7 Chakra Balancing Pillow & Room Spray

AED 95.00

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Lemongrass Essential Oil Spray

AED 85.00

RUT ESSENTIALS

Earth Ceramic Diffuser

AED 37.00

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Ecosoft Bra

AED 180.00

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C&S ACTIVE

Ecosoft Short

AED 160.00

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Mantra Banana Meditation Mat

AED 180.00

PALM LIGHTS

Sandalwood Artisanal Incense Sticks

AED 50.00

With all these items on hand, you’ll be well on your way to creating the perfect meditation space in your home. Just remember to keep it simple — less is more when it comes to designing your space. The most important thing is that it feels peaceful and calming so that you can fully relax and enjoy your practice.

The Gaggler team is passionate about finding and sharing great products with our readers. We take pride in researching and testing products to find the best of the best, and we only recommend things that we love and think you will too. 

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8 Tips to Get Employees to Refocus After the Holidays

Switching back to work mode.

As any working adult knows, the first day back at work after a long vacation is hardly as exciting as the first day of school. On the one hand, it’s great to see all your co-workers again and catch up. On the other, you quickly realise that you’re way behind on all the work that’s piled up in your absence. 

Instead of a clean slate and a new beginning, you’re met with a stack of paperwork and grumpy coworkers who didn’t take a break themselves. Whether you’re starting a new job or just getting back into the swing of things after a long break, those first few days back can be tough. 

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Back to Work Mindset

The beginning of a new quarter is the perfect time to hit the reset button and start fresh. For leaders, this is an opportunity to leverage the renewed vigour of their staff. However, the reality is that it takes a while to shake off the holiday mood and get back to focusing on work. While holidays are invigorating and fun, they are also draining, which means returning employees might be intimidated by the volume of work waiting for them.

Taking a leaf out of your old school book, it’s nice to have activities that ease everyone back into a work mindset, highlighting the good aspects. By formulating a plan of action to get them to look forward to the quarter ahead, you can bring company and personal goals into focus in an exciting manner. This will help your team hit the ground running and make the most of the new year.

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So you might be asking yourself, how do I as a leader positively and productively affect my team’s focus after returning back to work from vacation? Here are some suggestions that could help you get employees to regain focus after their vacation:

Make Space for Catch-up Time

Knowing you understand the importance of catch-up time will increase your employees’ engagement levels. They’re going to spend time doing it anyway; they might as well do it as a planned activity and you get some brownie points for it! 

A couple of team lunches and designated catch-up time slots would liven up the first few days back with  something to look forward to. Perhaps having no scheduled meetings for the first couple of days could also help, as it gives employees a more relaxed schedule.

Give Employees a Settling in Period

When your employees come back from vacation, the last thing they want is a deluge of emails from HR and other departments. To avoid this, try consolidating all your company news into one newsletter. This way, your employees can take a couple of days to catch up on their email without worrying about missing important updates. 

Plus, by putting everything in one place, you’re more likely to get everyone’s attention. Just be sure to schedule the newsletter for a time when most people are likely to be at work, so it doesn’t get lost in the clutter.

Kill Two Birds With One Team Meeting

As the new year gets underway, it’s a great time to hold a team meeting to catch up with your employees and set some goals for the quarter. This will help everyone to focus on what’s important and ensure that everyone is on the same page. It’s also a great opportunity to get input from your team and get their buy-in for the upcoming quarter. 

Employees value being valued, and by getting their input, you’ll show them that their ideas are important to the company. This will go a long way towards increasing motivation levels and ensuring that everyone is working towards the same goals. 

Introduce a Wellness Programme

Implementing a wellness programme is a great way to show your employees you care and help them get back on track after the holidays. There are many benefits to having a wellness programme, including bringing employees together, making them feel cared for, addressing work-related stress, and improving their physical and mental health. 

With most people looking to get back on track after holiday bingeing, a wellness programme is the perfect solution. You can create team-level competitions for wellness activities to boost team spirit and help employees reconnect after the break. And don’t forget to lead by example and participate in the programme yourself!

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Time Employee Perks Smartly

It’s always tough getting back into the swing of things after a long break, but there’s no need to wait until later in the year to introduce new training opportunities or certifications. By launching these programmes now, you’ll give your employees something to look forward to and enough time to get results before the year ends, thus boosting work focus and improving productivity. Not only will this help them refocus more quickly, but it will also increase their satisfaction, motivation, and accountability. 

Make It Personal

Depending on the size of your workforce, try to walk around and personally welcome everyone back or do it in groups. Feeling seen will give them added impetus to focus and get to work faster. You and your department heads could just pop into meetings and say welcome back; maybe not all at the same time though. 

Welcoming your employees personally is an unexpected gesture that will generate a lot of positivity and help eliminate the back-to-work blues. It also massively boosts employee morale, engagement and motivation, which is always most welcome and has positively impacted bottom lines.

Implement An Open Door Policy

Good communication is essential for any workplace, and this is especially true when it comes to delicate topics like mental health. No one wants to feel like they’re being brushed off or that their concerns are unimportant.

It’s crucial to make HR business support available to encourage people to come and chat about any issues they may be facing. This way, you can help them get a handle on those issues and ensure they’re better placed to cope with returning to work.

Reverse the Roles

Put yourself in their shoes — what would make you feel happy to be back at work? What would help you focus more easily? That’s usually a good starting point when you’re stuck for ideas. Or, get a representative group of employees and ask them for suggestions. The fact that you care enough to ask will be a win in itself. 

Most importantly, don’t forget what it felt like to be on that side of the table. As long as you stay connected with those expectations, you will find it easy to stay connected with your team.

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Get Started

As we enter the new year, the pressure builds up to set, renew, and achieve goals. The sooner you have a team cohesively working towards this shared vision, the better it is for everyone in the organisation. 

Getting your employees to refocus in a manner that addresses everyone’s needs and shows everyone is valued and appreciated pays rich dividends for the organisation. Employees, in turn, get the satisfaction of knowing their presence, contribution, and effort are worth it. A win-win for individuals and organisations alike.


Bina Mathews is an Executive Master Coach and Communications Consultant at Bina Mathews Consulting FZE. For more information, please visit www.coachbina.com or contact via Instagram.

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6 Wellness Must-Haves for a New Year Reset

Take a look inside our Wellness Editor’s cart.

Reset. Renew. Revive. These are my personal intentions for the new year and, as 2023 gets well underway, I’m sharing some of the things I have my eye on in January to help me on my journey.

Mahnoor Bari
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Mahnoor Bari is Gaggler’s resident junior editor with a background in digital journalism and communications. She loves dessert a little too much and mainly writes about food, culture, and wellness.

Wellness Editor’s Must Haves: January Edit

To start with, there’s the Amber Salt Lamp, which reminds me of my roots and childhood road trips through Himalayan salt mine country, and will help my sinuses in the upcoming allergy season this spring with its room-cleansing properties. Then there’s the Vaastra Diamond Sambu Grass Yoga Mat — complemented by the Palm Lights Sandalwood Artisanal Incense Sticks — to set the stage and mood for my yoga sessions at home.

And then there’s our upcoming Gaggler event, Reclaim Your Career. If you are looking to re-establish yourself after a career break and feeling a little rusty, this is the perfect forum to equip yourself with the essential tools and confidence to stride confidently back into the workplace. And speaking of workplace, I’m also eyeing the Saine Wooden Reflexology Massager to keep under my desk for those much-needed breaks.

MOTION TRADING

Amber Salt Lamp

AED 140.00

Available in two sizes: small and large

SAINE

Wooden Reflexology Massager

AED 185.00

Give yourself a needed break while sitting at your desk working or reading.

EARTHISTIC

Vaastra Diamond Sambu Grass Yoga Mat

AED 180.00

The straws and cotton together offer an improved grip for practicing asanas.

GAGGLER

January 25, 2023: Reclaim Your Career

AED 250.00

The perfect forum to equip yourself with the essential tools to stride confidently back into the workplace.

SAINE

Deep Sleep Buckwheat Pillow

AED 65.00

By flawlessly adapting to your body’s needs and gently massaging your neck, it will stabilise your spine, head, and neck region.

PALM LIGHTS

Sandalwood Artisanal Incense Sticks

AED 50.00

The scent of sandalwood is subduedly earthy and woodsy, made from genuine Mysore Sandalwood powder.

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Infuse Your Style With the Energy You Need

Meet the woman behind KimonoGirl.

If you’ve been keeping up with the latest trends, you may have noticed that energy fashion is having a moment. But what exactly is energy fashion? it’s is all about dressing in a way that supports your personal well-being. This trend is based on the belief that the clothes we wear impact our mood and vitality through energy. 

When choosing energy fashion, comfort and functionality are key. The goal is to select clothing that makes you feel relaxed, confident, and free to move. Natural fabrics like silk, cotton, and linen are often favoured for their breathability and gentle feel. Bright colours and fun prints are also popular choices, as they can help energise and uplift the wearer.

One brand leading this new trend is KimonoGirl. Margeri Ottis, founder and CEO, is the woman behind the fashion brand. Margeri was born and raised in Estonia, and at the age of 10, she became interested in Buddhism after reading a book called Meditation for Children. As she grew older, she began to expand her knowledge of both spirituality and art. Adopting this open-minded approach to life allowed her to tap into her inner source of power.

Margeri’s journey began with a yearning for something more. After living with monks in a temple in Nepal and attending ayahuasca ceremonies, she felt called to explore her spiritual side. However, when she found herself at the top of the corporate ladder in London, she realised that the corporate world was not where her true passion lay. 

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For over a decade, she worked in sales and business development for some of the world’s biggest banks. In recent years, however, she became increasingly frustrated by the inequalities of the corporate world. Finally, heeding her inner calling, she left the corporate world behind and embarked on a journey of self-discovery where she found her true purpose. 

When Margeri first came across a kimono, she was instantly captivated by its beauty, but it wasn’t until she began wearing them herself that she realised their true power. For Margeri, kimonos represent a unique form of feminine expression. They are a way for women to feel both powerful and beautiful. 

In a world where women are often expected to conform to masculine standards, kimonos provide a refreshing alternative. That’s why she founded The KimonoGirl, an energy fashion brand dedicated to empowering women through wearing energy-infused kimonos. She launched the company in February 2022, developing it since July 2021. 

We sat down with Margeri to find out what drives her passion for energy fashion and why kimonos are a girl’s new best friend and these are what we learned.

What prompted you to create a line of kimonos?

I feel like every day, we as women are faced with so many demands and expectations. We’re told we have to be perfect wives, mothers, daughters, employees… the list goes on. And it’s easy to feel like we’re not doing enough, or that we’re not good enough. 

I wanted to create something that would help women remember their inner goddess — the part of them that is strong, powerful, and beautiful. Our kimonos are made with absolute integrity from exquisite fabrics. Each piece is individually created with incredibly skilled hands and blessed with love and gratitude. When you wear one of our kimonos, I hope you’ll feel like the goddess you are.

How will your kimonos help empower women?

As any woman knows, feeling good about yourself is not always easy. We all have days where we feel less than our best, and it can be tough to shake off that low energy. However, there is one easy way to help elevate your mood and feel great: by wearing energy fashion. 

Energy fashion is designed to help boost your positive vibrational levels, so that you can feel more love, power, gratitude, inspiration, and worth. All you need to do is put on a kimono and let the positive energy flow!

What do you want to bring to the world through your brand?

Since we first launched our business, we’ve strived to continually improve our products and create even more value for our customers. We’ve evolved our energy-charging rituals to create even more powerful and elevated boosts of energy, and we’ve extended the range of mindfulness tools available through our fashion line. 

Energy fashion has truly changed the landscape of the fashion industry, and we want to be known as the pioneers of this new style of fashion. Our most important features are our magical kimonos, which are infused with healing energy and high frequencies to balance and heal the wearer. Our mission is to provide women with the tools they need to live their best lives, and we’re grateful to be able to do that through our unique product line.

What do wearers say about their experience when they put on a KimonoGirl kimono?

They love the experience and the luxury. When you put on one of our kimonos, we want you to feel a shift in your energy field. Our kimonos are made with high quality materials and are charged with high frequency energy. This combination creates a kimono that is not only beautiful, but also elevates the wearer’s body and mood.

When you slip into one of our kimonos, we hope you feel a sense of joy, peace, and love. We believe that when you look good, you feel good — and we want nothing more than for our customers to feel their best. Our kimonos are meant to be enjoyed and cherished, and we hope they bring you as much happiness as they have us.

What values does KimonoGirl hold on to?

When it comes to our brand, the most important aspect for us is our WHY. KimonoGirl exists to provide a platform through beautiful energy-charged kimonos that will make you feel not only beautiful but also empowered and elevated. 

We believe that every woman deserves to feel like a goddess, and our kimonos are designed to help you tap into your inner power. Our mission is to spread confidence and positivity through fashion, and we hope our kimonos can help you discover your unique beauty. 

The right clothing can make you feel more like yourself and give you the boost of confidence you need to take on your day. That is what I want our kimonos to do for our customers. I want them to feel beautiful, strong, and feminine when they put on one of our kimonos.

We put a lot of time and energy into each one of our pieces to make sure they are not only aesthetically pleasing but also have good energy. I believe that what you wear should make you feel good not only about yourself but also about the world around you.

What’s your favourite KimonoGirl kimono?

I have to say that I absolutely love all four of the kimonos in our first collection. Each one has its own unique properties and powers, so it really depends on your mood as to which one you’ll choose for the day. 

Earth Kimono: Earth is all about grounding, foundation, and substance. If you feel disconnected from your life path or like you’re not rooted in your identity, then earth energy may be what you need. 

Air Kimono: Air represents intellect, mental intention, and connection to the universal life force. If you’re seeking clarity or struggling to find your place in the world, air energy can help you to see things from a higher perspective. 

Water Kimono: Water is all about intuition, healing, and inner reflection. Water has long been accorded cleansing power and is regarded as the most powerful as well as the most life-sustaining element. If you’re in need of some emotional healing or regeneration, water energy can help. 

Fire Kimono: Fire symbolises incredible energy and passion. Fire is the source of freedom and creativity. If you’re feeling stuck in a rut or like you’ve lost your spark, fire energy may be just what you need to get back on track. 

No matter which kimono you choose to wear, you’ll feel like I’m embodying something special and powerful.

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Earth Element Kimono

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Air Element Kimono

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Water Element Kimono

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Fire Element Kimono

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What has been most challenging about bringing KimonoGirl to the world?

I think the most challenging thing for me about explaining the kimonos to my customers is that we are creating a new concept in the fashion market. The phrase ‘energy fashion’ is something that people are not familiar with, so it is a challenge to communicate and educate people about it. People are comfortable with things they already know, so anything new — whether it is a product or a concept — is always questioned. 

I try to be as friendly and patient as possible when explaining it to people so that they can understand what we are trying to do. Hopefully, once they see our products and how they can help them, they will be more open to the idea of energy fashion.

Kimonos are unique because they are specifically designed to work with your body’s energy. They are also versatile and can be worn for many different occasions. I believe that once people understand these things about our kimonos, they will be more interested in purchasing them.

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Choosing your energy

We’re constantly surrounded by energy, and whether we realise it or not, that energy affects us in profound ways. That’s why it’s so important to surround ourselves with positive energy as much as possible — and that includes the clothes we wear.

When you wear clothing that have been created through a positive pathway of energy, it gives you the ability to tap into your own feminine divine — the part of you that is strong, beautiful, and capable of anything. It’s this connection to our feminine power that allows us to feel confident and unstoppable in the face of whatever life throws our way. And when we feel good about ourselves, we can show up fully in our lives and relationships and be the best versions of ourselves possible. 

Every woman has the power to unlock and live her feminine divine. With Earth, Air, Water, and Fire Kimonos from Kimonogirl, you can express your unique personality while feeling magical, beautiful, empowered, and inspired. Made with love and positive vibrations, these kimonos will help you live your best life.

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In Conversation with Isabella Goeres

The founder of Saine talks health and healing.

In today’s world, it’s sometimes hard to focus on the things that make us feel good, but what if we could add a dose of wellness to our lives that would enrich us in ways we never thought possible? That’s where wellness comes in. Wellness is about taking care of yourself.

It’s about being in tune with your body and mind, and knowing what you need to be at your best. Wellness is about taking time for yourself and ensuring you have the energy to care for your family and friends. It’s knowing that you’re looking out for your mental health as much as your physical health. It’s about being present in your life and taking time every day to connect with yourself and those around you.

Because you’re a mere human, you need to treat yourself right. It’s easy to get caught up in the hustle and bustle of life, but it’s essential to take time out for yourself to stay healthy and happy. And when it comes to maintaining your wellness routine, it’s crucial to ensure that your mind and body get the attention they deserve. Furthermore, there’s a lot we can do to improve our overall well-being. We can eat healthier, exercise more, and sleep better. But as necessary as those things are, there are also tools that can help us on our journey.

One such tool is the products by Saine, a wellness brand devoted to promoting wellbeing. It offers pure and natural products, bringing you closer to your roots. Developed over generations, it carries traditional wisdom in a modern, minimalistic aesthetic. It can be hard to take care of ourselves in our busy lives. We are constantly bombarded with messages telling us what we should be doing and buying, but often, we don’t have time for it all. That’s why Saine offers products that give back some of your time by making it easier for you to take care of yourself.

Conversation with Isabella Goeres

Isabella Goeres started Saine in April 2021 after moving to Dubai from her home country of Switzerland. She was used to working in the fashion industry, but as a nature lover, she missed her connection to nature in the transition. To help her reconnect with nature, she started practising yoga intensely and sewing products that would enhance her well-being, which soon became favourites among her friends and family.

After some time, Isabella decided to create Saine and give more people in Dubai the possibility of using natural wellness products in order to improve their wellbeing. Her vision is to reconnect people with nature through simple but effective products that make them feel good about themselves (and their surroundings). We sat down with Isabella, getting to know her better and tapping her insights as an entrepreneur.

What motivated you to pursue Saine?

At Saine, we believe in the power of natural ingredients to make people happier and feel better. Our products are pure and natural, bringing you closer to your roots. We’re proud to be able to provide such an essential service: helping people realise their potential and live a life they love.

We know that everyone has a dream, but so many of us never get around to realising it because we’re too busy taking care of everyone else. Our products are designed to help you take care of yourself for once – to ensure that you can give yourself what you need without feeling guilty about it!

What’s the inspiration behind Saine products?

I decided to create/sell this product because I believe that the healing power of nature is something that we need to pay more attention to. We are currently observing a trend towards natural products and healing techniques. People are more aware of how they can improve their health by eating healthier foods, living more consciously, and looking after themselves naturally.

Saine products support this lifestyle by offering what nature already provides us in a very stylish and minimalistic way. Our products are produced locally with only natural ingredients. And their wisdom has been passed down from generation to generation. This is what I wanted to create: traditional healing in a state-of-the-art and eco-friendly way.

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How do Saine products enrich the lives of its users?

Saine products are made from the purest of materials, each to help you in your own way. Though different, they all share the same values: natural ingredients, wisdom, and durability. Saine products can be used for years because everything is washable, and the fabrics and colours are carefully chosen for their high quality.

Our essential oils and sprays are crafted safe for your skin and the environment. The result of all this hard work is a product that promotes wellness because it makes you feel close to nature, giving you a greater sense of connection with your roots and traditions.

What is your vision of success?

In my business, success is when people come back to me saying that they love my products for different reasons. And that my products are making a difference in their lives. This is what I strive for every day. My goal is to make sure that every person who uses my product feels like they’re getting the best care possible and that they have access to quality products at affordable prices. I want my customers to know that what they buy from me will be worth it.

How does Saine stand out from the crowd?

What makes Saine different is our commitment to purity and natural ingredients. Our products are free from harsh chemicals and synthetic fragrances, so you can feel good about using them. In addition, we only use sustainable and ethically sourced ingredients, so you can be sure that your purchase supports a responsible business. 

Saine has the power to help you live a better life by giving you a hand with your health and well-being needs. We are committed to providing quality products that support your wellness. We believe that when you feel good physically, mentally, and spiritually, you can achieve anything! The Saine product concept was relatively unknown in Dubai when it started. It’s a new product range that customers here have yet to experience fully.

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What does wellness mean to you?

Wellness is the state of being happy, healthy, and functioning at your best. When we have a positive outlook on life, we feel better. When we feel good about ourselves, we tend to be more productive and efficient in our everyday lives. When you are healthy and happy, you can enjoy all aspects of life more fully.

You can focus on your work without feeling sick or tired all the time. You will have more energy for socialising with friends and family members without having to make excuses for not wanting to go out because you’re too tired from working hard during the day. We know that feeling good is the best way to live. And with wellness tools like Saine products, we’ll be on our way to feeling better than ever. 

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Feeling Lost? Consider These Life Coaches in Dubai

And find your perfect fit.

The demand for life coaching is constantly growing and finding the right one may be challenging. An excellent life coach can guide you through a transformational journey to help you improve your life, achieve your personal and professional goals, and become the best version of yourself.

Getting a life coach involved to help with reaching your goals can help to give you a neutral outsider’s perspective on where you can do better in your life – whether that’s incorporating better habits, changing the way you think about problems or certain aspects of your life, or supporting you with building concrete strategies to achieve your goals. Here, we reveal some of the best Dubai-based life coaches who truly impact people’s lives with their work.

1. LIVVITY – Maximize Your Wellbeing by Szilvia Vitos

Szilvia Vitos is a certified transformational life and wellness coach specialising in leadership and emotional intelligence coaching. She’s the founder and general manager of LIVVITY – Maximize Your Wellbeing. Szilvia stepped into the health and wellness industry following her passion after 15 years of corporate experience in various executive management roles in the logistics industry.

Today, she loves working with people and organisations to help them achieve their goals, and is recognised for her outstanding leadership and mentoring skills that are practised in Fortune 500 companies. Her transformational leadership skills have had a remarkable impact on the teams she was responsible for in big corporations, and she is passionate about sharing her knowledge and mentoring other leaders for success.

Besides leadership, Szilvia has always been passionate about living a healthy lifestyle, and she combines these skills in her life coaching practice for long-lasting, maximum results. With her holistic approach, she ensures that the root cause of the underlying issue is being identified and resolved. When working with organisations, her areas of expertise are transformational leadership and employee engagement (well-being). As for individuals? She helps leaders elevate their lifestyle, ignite the energy flow, and increase productivity as a direct impact.

Szilvia Vitos, 055 123 3223, [email protected], livvity.coach

2. Self-Driven Life Coaching by Aida Uzunovic

Aida Uzunovic is a certified personal and business coach, NLP coach, and timeline therapist, helping her clients to become self-driven. Her coaching covers a variety of problems ranging from relationships to anxiety and depression. She spent 17 years working in finance, legal, and analytics, after which she explored the rewarding world of coaching and changed her career to inspire people and change lives.

Aida Uzunovic, 058 589 1469, [email protected], self-driven.coach

3. Venture with Farah

Farah is a certified life coach and NLP practitioner based in Dubai. She may be the right life coach for you if you’re feeling stuck and looking for guidance on how to move forward, want to break free from external expectations, or looking to heal from toxic relationships. Farah has always been passionate about understanding how others think and view things.

Farah, [email protected], www.venturewithfarah.com

4. Sabine Therapies

As a spiritual life coach and certified NLP and RSCI coach, Sabine Poncelet helps clients navigate challenges, find deeper meaning, align with their soul purpose, and move towards their dreams. Some of the main areas where Sabine may be able to help you are: releasing judgements and negative self-talk, developing healthy relationships, understanding your true purpose, and navigating difficult life challenges.

Sabine Poncelet, 052 713 7052, [email protected], www.sabinetherapies.com

5. Rania Hatoum

Rania Hatoum is a certified co-active life coach and focuses on the “being” and “doing” aspects of her clients’ lives. Her passion is to not only help people realise their life purpose, but also motivate them to achieve the highest expression of it. Rania’s life purpose is to help people find their inner calling and live joyful, fulfilled lives.

Rania Hatoum, [email protected], raniahatoum.org

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Of Ice Cream and Ingenuity – Meet Marcela

The entrepreneur on her vision, lightbulb moment, and more.

Did you know that tomorrow is Women’s Entrepreneurship Day? Created to celebrate, empower, and support women in business in order to alleviate poverty, the day is marked annually on November 19. Supporting the initiative, we’re continuing our series on female entrepreneurs today. In the past, we’ve spoken with the likes of Leena Al Abbas, Claire Lambert, Mona Kattan, and Emma Burdett about their entrepreneurial journeys, proving that the insights of Dubai’s female self-starters bring with them countless nuggets of wisdom. Case in point?Marcela Sancho, who is all about bringing guilt-free treats to the city.

After popping out for ice cream with her partner one afternoon in 2018, she was shocked by the lack of healthy options on offer for those looking for something that wasn’t packed with sugar, preservatives, or calories. Tapping into her partner’s extensive experience in the region’s frozen treats business, Marcela set about creating a refreshing and healthy alternative to what was available, co-founding House of Pops in the process. Not only is it the only Dubai-based ice cream brand with zero plastic packaging, but itsvegan all-natural fruit pops also contain no preservatives, colourings, E-numbers, nor refined sugar.

Marcela Sancho

WHO?

Marcela Sancho

FOUNDER OF?

House of Pops

Age?

34

What was your ‘lightbulb’ moment?

One day, I was with my partner, out for ice cream and shocked that we couldn’t really see anything that was healthy on offer. Everything was high in sugar, high in fat, and packed with empty calories. Health and wellness had become a global trend, and more UAE consumers were moving into this category at the time, so that was our opportunity to take up the challenge and fill the gap in the market.

What was your vision when you first launched your business?

We wanted to be the number one choice when people thought of healthier ice cream, and create the healthiest form of ice cream that we possibly could. We wanted to be the first to bring the change – a disruption into this category – and believed we could have a strong share in the ice cream business, especially since my partner had extensive experience in the industry. Our mission was to provide consumers with an option to delight themselves guilt-free and, so, House of Pops was born. We launched our products at a farmers’ market and sold 100 pops that day. That was a great day.

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Has the pandemic affected your business negatively or positively?

It had a positive effect. When people were locked at home, they were looking for something to indulge in to make themselves happy, and House of Pops was the perfect solution as a healthy treat. We already had a very strong e-commerce structure in place, so we were able to cope with the demand. We experienced a channel growth of 10 times its size before COVID-19.

What drives you every day?

The passion to achieve sustainable growth for the business, tackle new opportunities of development from the product range, and expand the brand internationally. The business has been working for four years – we’ve successfully opened several shops and want to expand our franchise model. It’s been sold to other countries in the GCC, and this is where our focus is at the moment.

Do you have a favourite business mentor?

Jim Rhon and his practical approach. He preaches accountability. This is very powerful, as he made me realise that I can change and drive change in my life and in my business. I stopped pointing out why things went wrong, justifying it with external factors, and started to ask myself what I could’ve done differently or better. This is how I learned. He also explains why it’s important to not only have clear priorities, but also allocate energy and a share of mind to them to get results. When time is limited as an entrepreneur, this becomes very helpful.

Which books/podcasts/blogs do you follow, and why?

I usually like to listen to interviews. You can learn a lot from other people’s experience, irrespective of the field they are in. From sportsmen like MMA fighter Conor McGregor to Michelle Obama, it gives me the motivation and sense of community that I need. I can relate to a lot of the struggles that they speak about, and how they overcame them to reach the place where they are today.

What’s one piece of advice that you would give to a budding entrepreneur?

Set your concept and give it a try. Have your goals straight. Speak to people in the field. Understand challenges that you might face so that you don’t repeat them again. Read a lot about your idea and your concept. Be like a sponge.

What are five things one must consider before launching a business?

  1. Make sure that the insights make sense.
  2. Make sure that the business is scalable – it should be a business, not a hobby.
  3. Understand the financials on bringing the idea to life. Do you have them or do you need external investment?
  4. Have the right skills to develop the idea. If you don’t have them, get the right team (outsourced or in-house).
  5. Find something unique in your proposition. This will make you build a successful company. We are at a time where a lot of services and products are being offered, so ask yourself, ‘Why people would choose my product?
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Why Self-Care Is Crucial for Working Women

Caregiving begins with taking care of yourself.

Invited to speak at a Pinktober event recently, I chose the topic ‘Caring for Caregivers’. October and November are months dedicated to increasing awareness on breast cancer and prostate cancer, and as such, focus on self-care. My topic caused a bit of confusion with people expecting another speech focused on the disease, the patient, or the treatment – certainly not the caregiver.

What I have realised is that the term ‘caregiver’ comes with an entourage of associated emotions and labels. The focus is always only on the person being taken care of, with associated emotions ranging from guilt to selflessness. By association, the word ‘care’ has come to take on the meaning of only being directed towards others – more so when you’re a woman, the ultimate caregiver.

I’d like to share a brief version of the popular children’s fable, The Magic Porridge Pot. A poor couple with barely enough to eat themselves hears a knock on the door. They open it to find a tired, hungry traveller. Inviting him in, they share their frugal meal with him and give him a bed for the night. The next morning, the grateful stranger reveals that he is, in fact, an angel and would like to reward their generosity. He gifts them with a magic pot that will never, ever run out of food.

I hear you sighing longingly and asking where we can order this magic pot, too. Let me know when you find it! In the meantime, coming back to caregivers, we like to think of ourselves as magic porridge pots with an unending source of care to give. The truth, however, is that we need to stop every now and again to recharge our batteries and refill our resources so we can resume sharing them with others. In other words, we turn the care inwards and direct it at ourselves, i.e. self-care.

Having been raised to be caregivers for others, with the concept of selfless love drilled into their heads, most women find self-care a difficult concept to accept. It battles with all that they have been told a so-called good *insert role* does. You put others first, more so when you are a wife/mother, always putting the needs of your family above your own. While this school of thought is gradually tapering out, it is still strong enough to make self-care something we need to write about in a magazine, so women will know it’s perfectly alright for them to indulge in it themselves.

Self-care is Important For Women

Guilt

The primary gut response to sometimes even thinking about taking time out to do something just for yourself is guilt. On a personal level, this can sound like:

“This is time I should be spending on carrying out my role as professional/spouse/parent/daughter.”

“It’s not like I really NEED to do this, it’s actually a bit of a luxury/pampering/treat.” 

“Shouldn’t I be spending this money on something more useful?” 

“Doesn’t X need something like this more?”

“Isn’t this a bit selfish of me?”

The same guilt sounds more like this when it refers to a professional context:

“I am so desperately unhappy in this job, but feel so guilty about quitting.”

“Just because I’m being disrespected here doesn’t mean I have to jeopardise my job by speaking up.”

“I know I deserve a better role, but I’ll be letting down so many people if I move on.”

It’s quite funny how the guilt can spring up over something as silly as taking a break for coffee with a friend or buying fancy bath salts, let alone the high-level guilt that comes from taking a longer break to just chill and relax, or resign from a toxic workplace. This guilt stems from the intrinsic belief that time and money need to be spent on (and earned for) someone else selflessly. 

The Talking-Down

After the guilt comes the talking-down. Talking yourself and your needs down in relation to someone else and what they are going through or what they need. Talking down whatever state you are in – mentally, physically, emotionally – with accompanying justification is something all women go through. And it might sound something like this: our mums’ generation never made a fuss about this; this is natural at this age; everyone in my profession has this level of stress; who isn’t stressed these days?

When we finally do get to move past the talk-down and still continue with our plans, a well-placed sarcastic question or comment from a colleague or relative could have you backtracking in a second, cancelling all plans because you realise they are so right.

Why is it important for women to take self-care

Justifying the Spend

This is the one that women find the hardest. A legacy of the hunter-gatherer days for women is that we were the ones who managed whatever was hunted/gathered, ensuring it lasted as long as possible and was distributed as needed. Resource management has, ever since, been our strongest suit, often leading to wives being teasingly referred to as the Finance Minister or Home Minister.

Having always been responsible for managing the resources for the wider group, the concept of staking a claim for ourselves therefore goes against the grain. There is the niggling feeling that this could have been given to someone else because they might need it more. So how do we negate all this hard-coded conditioning and rewrite it with the empowering belief that we are worthy of care, too?

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Put Yourself First

Referring to the magic porridge pot story earlier: you cannot be who you are meant to be or do what you are meant to do if you are not in the best shape physically, mentally, and emotionally. By ensuring that your batteries are always fully charged and you are working in peak form, you are ensuring that what you give others – in any capacity – is your best, making it a win-win for everyone.

If Not You, Then Who?

It’s a question that usually stumps my clients. Because the truth is that you are the only one who values your well-being (or should value it!) so much. If you think you deserve better, more, or something else, newsflash: you are the only one who can give that to yourself. Too often, we wait for a manager, spouse, partner, or parent to see what we’re going through and take care of it for us. Not going to happen. Wake up and go after what you want.

Talk Yourself Up 

We know what the opposite does, so go ahead and switch it around. Tell yourself how impressed you are with what you are doing or have just done. List out the attributes you are proud of, the specific details of whatever it is you said or did that made you proud and include even the silly little ones.

Imagine you are talking about someone else and objectively list out the reasons they deserve to make that decision. You’ll be surprised at how easy it is to do for someone other than yourself. It is often very easy to appreciate and acknowledge what others do and achieve, and simultaneously find it equally hard to do the same for ourselves. This easy workaround is a great way to get over this and learn to value yourself and your own well-being more.

You Are Someone’s Role Model

Keeping that in mind will help you make decisions that you won’t regret. People, kids in particular, model our behaviours – not our words. So, if you are in a role that impacts how others think and behave, you have a responsibility to show them how to take care of themselves and their well-being by taking care of yours. Lead by example. You never know who you could be inspiring with your proactive self-care.

Bina Mathews is an Executive Master Coach and Communications Consultant at Bina Mathews Consulting FZE. Visit www.coachbina.com or follow @coachbina on Instagram for more information.

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