The deeper your relationships, the more effort you must put into understanding them. Reviewing your relationship habits from time to time to reignite the passion, seek forgiveness or uplift your significant other is always a good idea. While relationships bring us happiness they may not necessarily be easy to maintain. It takes years of effort, emotional fortitude, and healing to preserve a healthy relationship. A relationship can be positively influenced with conscious consideration and a solid foundation. Here are 5 healthy relationship habits to consider when looking for ways to sow the seeds for a lasting and joyful relationship.
We tend to fall into the most beautiful relationship with people who bring out the best in us. However, people grow and priorities change, and some relationships fade. What happens during this entire process, “defines” you and your loved one. The unhealed, unheard, and unseen bits within us from a failed relationship, remain stuck. This can lead to blame, guilt, feelings of loss, and other intense and painful emotions, and the same pattern may repeat itself in your next relationship. What can you do to break this pattern and ensure your next relationship is different?
While it may seem to be the simplest answer to conflict resolution – forgiveness – it requires self-evolution, self-love, and a willingness to be persistent. Forgiveness comes from a deep and spiritual place, and we all have the ability to forgive. Even though it may seem daunting at first, forgiveness releases you and your partner from the cycle of punishment. One way to forgive is to consciously stop dwelling on the past and be present in the current moment. Recall the last time you forgave someone. What led you to forgive them? What did you learn about yourself and others when you chose to forgive? Forgiveness comes with looking at the situation differently and determining why this relationship is important to you.
Communication is key in any relationship. It’s important to express yourself openly and honestly with the people in your life. This means actively listening to what others have to say and responding in a thoughtful manner. It’s also important to communicate your own needs and boundaries, as well as be willing to compromise and find solutions that work for both parties. It is with clear communication that we can use forgiveness as a powerful tool. It’s important to let go of past hurts and resentments and move forward with a positive attitude. This means being willing to apologise when you’ve made a mistake and accepting apologies from others.
Travelling together can be a challenge but also bring about positive effects such as personal growth. It can also strengthen the bond of your relationship. Whether you go on a road trip across Europe or enjoy a staycation in Dubai, travelling brings about a well-rounded evolution in each individual and collectively as a couple or a family unit. The memories from travelling together will last forever and may provide a positive source to refuel your relationship.
It’s important to have patience with each other, honour each other’s choices, and compromise so that both enjoy the holiday. Chalk out a shared travel itinerary, research local cuisine, and agree upon the budget prior to embarking on the trip to minimise possible areas of conflict. Pack your suitcase with your favourite games for the trip. Spending quality time while travelling with your loved ones is crucial to building and maintaining healthy relationships. This means being present and engaged when you’re with them.
Mutual Respect Always
A separation, breakup, or divorce is never easy, but many have been successful at creating blended families while continuing to be friends with their exes. The mantra to a successful blended family is acceptance; mutual respect is the prerequisite for acceptance. Finding a way to experience life together, respecting each other, and lowering your expectations requires a lot of mutual respect and laying down a solid foundation. It all starts with being civil with each other and initiating a genuine level of trust. Giving small and thoughtful gifts, planning occasional dinners, supporting individual coping mechanisms, and seeking timely counselling are ways to help connect with your loved ones on a deeper level.
Blending families can be a challenging process, but with time, patience, and effort, it is possible to create a happy and loving blended family. Here are some steps you can take to create a blended family:
- Set realistic expectations
- Focus on communication
- Create family traditions
- Show respect for everyone’s feelings
- Seek professional help when needed
Power of the ‘Gift’
A long-term relationship can be monotonous when life takes over. Daily chores such as watering plants, cooking a meal, picking up the kids from school, travelling for work can make one feel unworthy in a relationship if the effort is not recognised. While working together on some of the chores can be fun, it is important to make your partner feel recognised. Think, gifts! What type of gift you ask? The gift of time, the gift of words, and sure even the gift of a beautiful surprise can increase intimacy in a relationship, in a big way.
Gifting is one of the five love languages, as described by author Gary Chapman in his book “The 5 Love Languages“. Here are some key consideration of gifting as a love language:
- It’s not about the value of the gift
- It’s a way to show thoughtfulness and care
- It’s important to receive thoughtful gifts in return
- It’s not the only way to express or receive love
Recognise the love language of your partner and let them know yours. Giving ‘the gift’ that complements your partner’s love language from time to time builds more trust and rebalances the giving and receiving within your relationship.
A Working Relationship
While it may seem advantageous and easy to work with someone you love, different working styles can fracture a marriage, a family bond, or even a long-lasting friendship. But working with a spouse or partner is very much possible and rewarding in many instances. Instead of looking for a mirror image of you in your partner, pay attention to complementary styles of work to come together in a professional setting. Simultaneously ensure that the vision and mission of the organisation are shared by you and your partner and match your respective work ethics and individual styles. Lastly, it is always good to keep work-related discussions at the office and not turn your home life into a 24-hour 9-to-5 town hall.
Your relationship reflects both you and your partner, and implementing healthy habits that promote flexibility and adaptability as you grow and evolve can make you stronger together. By prioritizing the above-mentioned habits, you can create and maintain meaningful relationships. Remember that each relationship is unique. It takes time and effort to cultivate and maintain a healthy connection.
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