Most of us are familiar with pain and may even be experiencing it right now. As we draw close to the end of this year, let’s take a moment to see how we can heal and move ahead in life. If you are feeling pain, is it physical or emotional? Have you been feeling so overwhelmed that rational thinking no longer remains an unconscious effort? Why does your pain always drive you to a point where you don’t want to hear anything or soothe yourself?
The answers to these questions are simple.
The negative connotation of pain in our society limits our power to think or find the reason behind the pain. Over time, we have been made to believe that feeling pain and reacting to it is a sign of weakness. With such a notion attached to it, you cannot find the real meaning that the pain is meant to bring.
Pain Is a Sign
Pain in itself is just a sign and nothing more than that. We think of pain as bad or negative, but in reality, it is merely neutral. It just warns us that things aren’t right or not exactly what we want it to be. It highlights a difference in perception. So, when you are experiencing pain, it means it’s time to realign yourself so that things that have gone out of line will fall into place once more and the feeling of pain will subside – but it’s easier said than done. This is because you must take pain as a conscious feeling to consider it a sign of something wrong.
Is All Pain a Sign?
Pain is pain. It doesn’t have to be explicitly categorised. Pain doesn’t have to be specific or associated with a particular item or time, as it can come from any source. It could be the result of someone’s death, problems in your relationship, financial and housing issues, friendship, or any other scenario you can think of.
Pain is an external issue that you have no control over. It comes with time and change of circumstances. You cannot control pain, but you can manage it well by analysing what it wants to teach you. Once you locate its root, your pain will be gone. When undergoing pain, you must not maintain a ‘why me?’ attitude or think that you must’ve done something to suffer. This is when you must gain control over yourself and let the things causing pain to leave so that you can become a better person in the long term.
An interesting thing about pain is that it’s not the same for everybody – not even the factors that we regard as causing pain are the same for every individual. Everyone has their set parameters, boundaries, loving relationships, and essential values that can trigger pain (and that you can take as a sign). When pain comes from the things you love and value, it’s a signpost that signals a warning.
Another thing to keep in mind is that while pain is often triggered externally, it can also come from within you. Imagine a scenario where you have a house that is enough to fulfil all your needs and fits well into your budget, but you want to move to a bigger one when you can’t even afford it. This can cause you pain because of your own thoughts. In this case, you have to adjust your preferences. Otherwise, you won’t be able to cope, and the feeling of pain will continue.
How Can Pain Make You Better?
You must see pain as a sign to change. Change your attitude,your personality,your thinking style, or the overall emotional value you assign to things in order to eliminate pain and embrace wellness. The pain indicates that you have been in your comfort zone for so long that you did not realise going any further would hurt you.
In most cases, we are afraid of pain, and we don’t want it to ever come into our lives. This fear exists because we don’t like to change our comfort zone. We want to live the same way, but that isn’t possible when you have grown in multiple ways. For example, you may have matured in age, work experience, emotions, and even as a person, so the same living style cannot work – and thus pain is bound to show.