As a board-certified sexologist, I have spent the last 23 years advocating for holistic sexual intelligence and empowerment. I offer help and support to both individuals and couples, having specialised in Sexological Counseling, Sexuality Education, and Sexual Health Promotion at the Nordic Association for Clinical Sexology (NACS) and the Finnish Association for Sexology (FIAS).
Today, men, women, and couples are increasingly consulting a sexologist, cultivating sexual awareness and sexual intelligence in order to access accurate information and make informed choices before engaging in intimacy with their beloved, if they choose to. After all, overall sexual response – or the lack thereof – can be a barometer of the health of the entire relationship.
For the uninitiated, sexual dissatisfaction is the result of one (or more) of the following conditions:
- Lack of knowledge of one’s own body, especially genitalia.
- Lack of knowledge of how to experience and share sexual pleasure, if one chooses to do so.
- Guilt and shame about one’s body, feelings, thoughts, and sexual activity, often as a result of their upbringing.
- Issues related to intimacy, arousal, libido, sexual discomfort and pain, and other sexual problems can also be used as an arena in which a couple chooses – usually subconsciously – to work out their power or other issues.
Some women experience sexual pain at times, and most prefer to identify and manage the root causes of why sex hurts and why they feel dry and tight. They would rather successfully manage the causes of vaginal dryness and possible sexual side effects of menopause as opposed to ignoring them. It is, however, essential to seek female-friendly sexual health and enhancement solutions for women’s sexual difficulties such as low sexual desire, orgasm challenges, and female sexual arousal disorder (FSAD). Most women wish to overcome painful sex and other sexuality worries via safe, evidence-based, lasting, and non-invasive solutions beyond the clinical or medical model.
There are four approaches that a sexologist may use to treat sexual dysfunction.
1. The Cognitive-Behavioural approach has three significant components:
- Replacement of sexual anxiety with sexual comfort.
- Adopting positive sexual attitudes and learning sexual skills.
- A programme of individually designed sexual exercises (CBT) such as Sensate Focus to be done alone or with the partner between consultations with the expert.
2. The Biopsychosocial approach, which recognises that biological and medical factors, as well as psychological and cultural aspects, are involved in the onset of a sexual problem.
3. The Psychosexual approach, which combines clinical sexology (PLISSIT, MEBES, REASSURE models).
4. Mindfulness-Based Stress Reduction, an evidence-based system to build moment-to-moment awareness of one’s thoughts, feelings, and bodily sensations in order to reduce stress, anxiety, and symptoms of depression.
Christina Lindea is a board-certified sexologist based in Dubai. Visit https://docnoor.com to learn more or book a session.