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Tap Your Way to a Better Life

Learn how EFT tapping can revitalise your soul.

There are several healing energy modalities available to aid people in overcoming different health-related challenges, including issues related to mental well-being. One such special modality is the Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT). Not only can it be considered an energy healing technique, but it’s also a form of therapy that revitalises both the mind and the body.

What is the Emotional Freedom Technique?

EFT was developed about 30 years ago by Gary Craig, created to focus on acupuncture and acupressure points to activate the energy flow of meridians and energy centres (chakras) in the human body. The process involves tapping specific points on the head, face, and body in a particular sequence. The tapping is accompanied by an opening phrase that is then followed by the words selected by the practitioner to address the issue at hand – be it emotional or physical trauma. 

The opening statement is called a ‘reminder phrase’, and it is intended to concentrate the treatment on the actual issue. The most important aspect of this process, however, is finding the right words that resonate with the person and helping them release old negative energy blocks, which – if left untreated or unattended – can eventually turn into physical ailments. Today, a good number of Western doctors and therapists incorporate EFT into their own practice to speed up recovery and healing.

What can EFT do for you?

EFT is a great way to resolve issues stemming from one’s childhood – be it carelessly dropped words, angry rants, emotional or verbal abuse, negative phrases that were just a momentary expression of disappointment, or deliberately unkind words that created limiting beliefs that define a person’s life. At a subconscious level, these factors can create obstacles, lead to complications, and prompt people to take steps and decisions that often are not helpful. 

With EFT, one can quite quickly resolve many of these old issues. In fact, even when people are unaware of the actual beliefs that keep plaguing them or do not remember what created them, EFT can tap into the root of the issue. The release is instantaneous if the correct word is found. For example, a common belief that is the root of most problems is, “I am not good enough.” A lot of fears – a fear of failure, for example – may have started from a simple moment, such as a parent carelessly accusing a child of being clumsy. The child in this case, owing to their age, might not have been able to process the incident properly and therefore recorded the phrase and associated it with the actual event.

They may then start to act out in every situation where a possibility of the same accusation arises and, before the child knows it, the association would kick in and trigger a fear of clumsiness – i.e. the fear of failure. As a result, children often grow to become anxious adults with various fears. These fears may not necessarily be as simple as being scared of the dark, though this is one other issue that can be successfully addressed and healed with the help of EFT. An ‘anxious adult’ in this case, means a person who is too nervous to take a step forward, to show their true character, to brave obstacles, and break through walls that were put their way. Such people usually prefer to melt into the crowd and show no initiative. 

How do we know that EFT works?

EFT does more than just resolve these kinds of issues. It helps people to breathe with new resolve and removes the burdens that people didn’t know they had – a good therapist would simply play with words until the right ones are found. How do you identify such words? It all depends on the client’s reactions. The person who is treated with EFT may start to actively nod, cry, and take deep breaths or they may demonstrate their connection through other visual aids. And at the end of the session, they would usually have a smiling face, wet eyes, and a new sense of hope. This is the truly gratifying moment for the therapist – the moment of realisation that yet another soul now feels better about themselves and can look straight ahead without fear gripping at their core. 

How is EFT performed?

Not only is EFT easy to learn and work with, but it can also bring effective release in many ways with just one or a few sessions. The best way to know if the outcome is as expected is to measure the intensity of the issuebetween 0 and 1 prior to the session, with 10 being the most acute condition. Once the number is identified, the tapping process can begin. The opening phrase is: “Even though I am… I have… (name the actual issue), I chose to love and accept myself.”

The same statement is used during every round of tapping and as a closing statement, too. Usually, three rounds of tapping is used, addressing the issue at hand and whatever it is the client wants to tackle. While tapping and playing with words, one would eventually arrive at the word that would tackle the root cause of the issue and remove it completely. Every time a minimum of three tapping rounds is completed, it is best to measure the intensity of the feelings towards the issue between 0 and 10 to see if the acuteness has reduced. The tapping continues till the number is reduced to 2 or 1, or completely reduced to 0.

Though EFT is a technique that can be easily used by anyone, it is best to address it with the guidance of an experienced EFT practitionerfor a very serious issue, as they are well-equipped with the different ways to approach the issue at hand and might help achieve faster and deeper healing. Having said that, practising EFT at home is one of the most advisable ways to help oneself and loved ones. 

The positive aspects of using EFT are: 

  1. It is simple and painless.
  2. It is easy to learn.
  3. It can be done both with and without a therapist.
  4. It is affordable.
  5. It isn’t time-consuming.
  6. It can be used with a specific emotional intent towards your unique life challenges. 

Research has shown that EFT can be equal to or better than standard treatments for mental health disorders such as depression and anxiety. Undoubtedly, EFT tapping is a great way to reduce anxiety and depression symptoms such as excessive worry, irritability, sleeping difficulties, and difficulty concentrating. The pandemic that has plagued the world for the last one and a half year has been challenging in terms of stress management for most people. The drive to help people avoid contracting COVID-19 has unintentionally created the perfect setting for mental breakdowns, deep fears, and many other disorders.

In some cases, ETF can help one overcome these issues in as little as 60 minutes, with the help of a professional. Those 60 minutes can relieve not only one’s current condition, but also address deeply buried old negative emotions that most likely are responsible for one’s health and happiness. Anxiety and depression are not the only health challenges that can be effectively addressed throughETF – obesity, smoking, excessive drinking, post-surgical tenderness, confidence issues, phobias of any type and complexity, reduced libido, and almost every other emotional or physical challenge are also examples.

The time required to eliminate any given issue will vary from client to client, and also depend on the underlying issue to be resolved. This is naturally based on the individual situation and depth or age of the problem. It would usually take at least two or three sessions to achieve measurable results. My advice? Use EFT with an open mind, trust the process, and let the healing happennaturally.

Farah is a Certified Reiki Master and Spiritual Life Coach at Lee Wellness.

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Self-Love Boost: 3 Simple Rituals to Pamper Yourself

Ways to get back in love with yourself.

Self-love is an essential component of a healthy and fulfilling life. It involves treating yourself with kindness, compassion, understanding, and recognising your worth.

Far too often, we are hard on ourselves and engage in self-criticism or self-sabotage. It can lead to negative feelings and a lack of confidence in ourselves. On the other hand, when we practise self-love, we can build a strong foundation of self-worth and self-acceptance. It allows us to pursue our goals and dreams with confidence and resilience.

We will explore how self-love can benefit us and provide tips on cultivating it in our lives. So, let’s dive in and start the journey of self-love together!

Ritual 1: Crystal Healing for Increased Self-Love

Crystal healing is a powerful and beautiful way to connect with your self-love and self-acceptance. Crystals are believed to have unique energetic properties that can help to promote feelings of love and positivity.

Holding or carrying a crystal, such as rose quartz or green aventurine, experienced increased self-love and self-acceptance.

The Gaggler Picks

Flourite

MOTION TRADING

Fluorite with Stand

AED 60.00

This Fluorite with Stand from is one of the best stones for spiritual detoxification and can transform negative energy into positive. If you’re feeling off-kilter, this stone can help you get back on track. Fluorite can also boost mental clarity, promote peace of mind, and encourage positivity. It balances energy, improves balance and coordination, boosts the immune system, and more. To incorporate crystal healing into your self-love ritual, try setting aside time to sit quietly with your chosen crystal each day and focus on sending love and gratitude to yourself.

Wand

MOTION TRADING

Selenite Wand

AED 125.00

You can also place crystals around your home or office or wear them as jewellery to keep their energy close to you throughout the day. This Selenite Wand from Motion Trading is used for cleansing and protecting the energy around you and will help you connect with your highest, most divine self. It helps clear blocked energy so that you can feel more in tune with yourself and your surroundings. It also elevates your spirit and improves your intuition so that you can fully manifest whatever you desire in life.

Black Bracelet

MOTION TRADING

Black Tourmaline Bracelet

AED 56.00

Black tourmaline is a strong grounding stone that protects against negative energy, and an excellent choice for those looking for a simple way to start incorporating crystals into their lives. The Black Tourmaline Bracelet features a single strand of beads interspersed with clear quartz points. The black tourmaline beads will help ground you and establish a feeling of security from within, while the clear quartz points will help release blockages, spiritual or personal. This bracelet will clear negative energy and bring balance and alignment.

Remember: The power of these crystals lies in your intention and belief, so trust in the process and allow things to work their magic.

Ritual 2: Affirmations for Self-Love and Confidence

Here are five affirmations that you can use to promote self-love and confidence:

  1. “I am worthy of love and acceptance from myself and others.”
  2. “I choose to love and accept myself, flaws and all.”
  3. “I trust in my worth and value.”
  4. “I am deserving of happiness and success.”
  5. “I have the power to shape my own life and create my happiness.”

Affirmations are an effective tool to help you shift your mindset and build self-love and confidence. By repeating these positive statements, you can train your mind to believe in yourself and your worth. Make sure to choose affirmations that resonate with you and feel true to your own experiences.

Incorporate these affirmations into your daily routine, morning, before bed, or whenever you need a boost of confidence or self-love. Try to say them with conviction, and visualise yourself living and embodying these affirmations. And be kind to yourself if you struggle to believe in them fully. It takes time to change our deep-seated beliefs.

Ritual 3: Meditation for Deepening Self-Love and Compassion

It’s important to remember that meditation is a skill. Like any other, it takes time and practice to develop it. You might find it hard to focus at first, but don’t get discouraged.

With time, you will be able to quiet your mind and observe your thoughts with less effort. The key is to approach it with patience and non-judgment, and to remind yourself that the goal of meditation isn’t to quiet the mind but to develop a different relationship with your thoughts and emotions, where you can observe them without getting caught up in them.

In this sense, meditation can be a powerful tool in helping us to cultivate deeper self-love and compassion.

Mat

EARTHISTIC

Dhyana Darbha
Grass Meditation Mat

AED 75.00

The grass yoga mat has a long history of serving as a crucial tool for spiritual adepts when meditating. It is used in religious rituals and for seating priests and deities. A grass mat can be especially beneficial for those who have difficulty staying grounded during meditation, or have excessive energy due to stress, so you can focus more easily on your practice.

roller

GYPSY ROSE HOLISTIC

Neck + Shoulder
Essential Oil Roller

AED 75.00

With the help of the Neck + Shoulder Essential Oil Roller from Gypsy Rose Holistic, you can relax. It contains 100% pure organic essential oils, including lavender, peppermint, and eucalyptus. Also, this roller is easy to use, bringing the advantages of aromatherapy to your fingertips. Use it before or after workouts or any time you need to relax stiff and sore muscles. You’ll feel refreshed after using this roller!

pillow

SAINE

Triangle
Meditation Pillow

AED 395.00

If you want to unwind after or even before a workout, the Triangle Meditation Pillow from Saine is for you. Sit down and relax for a while. Elevating the hips and finding alignment throughout the spine helps you stand up straighter. Buckwheat hulls and the cushion’s triangle shape perfectly support the body while also molding to its shape, making it perfect for meditation..

How to Incorporate These Simple Rituals into Your Daily Life

One simple tip for incorporating pampering rituals into your daily life is to focus on yourself for 10-15 minutes daily. During this time, you can use crystals, affirmations, and meditation to relax, reduce stress, and improve your overall well-being.

You can start by selecting a crystal that resonates with you and holding it in your hand while you repeat your chosen affirmations. Then take a few minutes to meditate and focus on your breath. This small but consistent daily effort can help you develop a strong self-care practice and greatly benefit your mental and emotional well-being. Here are some more wellness essentials that can further boost your ritual.

Legging

C&S ACTIVE

Tie-Dye Legging

AED 200.00

We’re all about you looking and feeling comfortable and relaxed — that’s why we’ve curated the new Tie-Dye Legging from C&S Active. Every detail has been carefully considered, from the brushed fabric that wicks away moisture to the four-way stretch in a modern tie dye print. It hits at the ankle on petites, so you don’t have to worry about it bunching up around your ankles. Pair with any of our other leggings and tops for a wardrobe upgrade.

Bra

C&S ACTIVE

Tie Dye Bra

AED 170.00

There’s nothing more comfortable than sweatpants, but sometimes you need to look like you’re not wearing sweatpants, so we’ve curated the Tie Dye Bra from C&S Active. It’s got all the comfort of your favourite pair but with a sporty, streetwear look and an athletic fit that keeps you super comfy. It’s made of brushed fabric with moisture-wicking properties, so it’s lightweight and breathable and features four-way stretch fabric for fantastic comfort, so you can move like nobody’s watching. The perfect bra for practice or

Bottle

MOTION TRADING

Amethyst Crystal Water Bottle

AED 280.00

Amethyst is known for its calming and spiritual properties and ability to enhance intuition, balance energy, eliminate negativity, and boost self-assurance. Now you can infuse your water with crystal energy — and all the benefits that come with it — with the Amethyst Crystal Water Bottle from Motion Trading.

diffuser

RUT ESSENTIALS

Stone Diffuser

AED 459.00

The Stone Diffuser from Rut Essentials is the perfect way to elevate your environment, improve your mood, and create a warm and welcoming space. The Stone Diffuser uses 100% pure essential oils to ensure a durable product that’s undergone extensive testing and is CE-certified. It has numerous mist settings, so you can change the frequency and potency of your preferred aroma, making it great for any size room. 

The very sophisticated mechanism guarantees simplicity of use and noiseless operation.

neck pillow

SAINE

Cherry Stone Neck Pillow

AED 100.00

Made in Japan, the Cherry Stone Neck Pillow from Saine is a natural way to promote well-being. It’s based on the principle of using heat to relieve muscle tension, which is a natural way to relax and ease menstrual, stomach, and colic symptoms. The cherry stones can retain heat for up to 50 minutes because they are hollow inside. The outer pillow is washable; remove it from its storage box and throw it in the washing machine with your regular laundry. 

earth kimono

KIMONOGIRL

Earth Element Kimono

AED 2,500.00

The Earth Element Kimono from KimonoGirl represents grounding, the foundation of life, substance, connection to life path, and our roots. It is charged with high frequencies and includes a mantra stitched within the placket. The superpowers of this kimono are grounded, wise, and nurturing. This divine grounding kimono is made from silk, and the outer side is printed with abundant flora and hummingbirds. The inside is a beautiful purple shade with intricate hand-embroidered details throughout the garment, including an exquisite hand-embroidered dragon that travels down one side of the kimono.

candle

SAANTE

Lavender & Eucalyptus Candle

AED 100.00

We know what you’re thinking: “I’m stressed, and I need to calm down.” That’s why we’ve got this candle. It will help you to unwind, calm your senses, and recharge with the help of a relaxing and calming candle scented with lavender and eucalyptus.

The scent supports the body’s ability to manage the cortisol stress hormone, and because it’s hand-poured in small batches using only pure beeswax and coconut oil, it’s guaranteed to smell amazing. Infused with the equivalent of one 10ml bottle of essential oil, the scented candle promises an aroma that lingers in the air long after it burns out.

oil

RUT ESSENTIALS

Sandalwood Pure Essential Oil

AED 70.00

The Sandalwood Pure Essential Oil from Rut Essentials is steam-distilled from the heartwood of the sandalwood tree. It has exceptional antiseptic and antibacterial properties and is excellent for grounding meditation because of its soothing, harmonious scent of fragrant wood. It has a rich, enduring aroma that comes from a priceless tree.

Your limbic system, a region of your brain that controls actions, emotions, and long-term memory, can be stimulated by inhaling essential oils. It triggers a response in your brain that boosts your mood and helps you feel more relaxed.

Small Pillow

SAINE

Flax Seed Relaxing Eye Pillow

AED 65.00

Lavender’s lovely aroma can help you relax, while flaxseed’s weight will help you relieve facial stress. The Flax Seed Relaxing Eye Pillow from Saine, filled with organic lavender plus flaxseeds and constructed entirely of linen, is your go-to buddy for a much-needed midday break, to sleep more soundly at night, or to unwind after your yoga session.

The pillow comes with a coordinating linen pouch to keep it clean until the next time it’s used. 

It’s important to make time for rituals, even if it’s just a few minutes each day. It is helpful to set aside a specific time of day for self-care, such as first thing in the morning or before bed, to help make it a consistent part of your routine. By regularly incorporating those products into your daily life, you can build a strong foundation of self-love and compassion that will serve you well in the long run.


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A Beginner’s Guide to the Ancient Art of Smudging

How to use herbs like sage to purify your space and give yourself a spiritual reset.

Sage is a beautiful plant that has been used for thousands of years as a herb and medicine. It has been used in rituals and ceremonies, both religious and secular.

It’s easy to see why this plant has a long history with humans: it smells great, looks beautiful, and helps keep pests at bay. But sage also has many other uses — you can use it to spiritually clean your space and yourself.

We’ll cover how you can use sage to clear out negative energy from your home or workspace so that you can start fresh with positive vibes.

What Is Smudging and How Does It Work?

Smudging is a Native American tradition used to cleanse the body and spirit. It is the process of burning sacred herbs, leaves, and other materials in a special fire to cleanse the area around you. It clears negative energy from your space, body, or mind.

The burning herbs release smoke that carries their scent into the air. The scent of these herbs is meant to purify your surroundings because it helps remove negative energy and replace it with more positive energy.

To do this effectively, you need to understand what makes smudging so effective and beneficial in the first place.

The Benefits of Smudging: Clearing Negative Energy and Promoting Well-Being

Negative energy can come from various sources, such as stress, tension, and unresolved emotions. By burning sage or other herbs, the smoke created can help to neutralise and dispel negative energy, leaving the space feeling lighter and more peaceful. It is beneficial in areas where people have been arguing or where there is a lot of stress.

Another benefit of smudging is that it can promote feelings of well-being. The smoke created by burning herbs is said to have a grounding and centreing effect, helping to calm the mind and ease tension. It promotes a sense of peace and tranquility, which can be particularly beneficial for people who are feeling anxious, stressed, or overwhelmed.

Smudging can also cleanse and purify objects, such as crystals or jewellery. It helps to remove any negative energy that may have accumulated on the object and restore its natural energy. That is why it’s a good practice for objects you wear frequently or that have been passed down to you.

Smudging offers a simple yet powerful way to clear negative energy and promote well-being, whether you want to purify your home, ground yourself, or enjoy the soothing aroma of burning herbs.

burning herbs

Preparing for a Smudging Ceremony

When preparing for a smudging ceremony, you should keep a few things in mind.

First, set aside at least 20 minutes of quiet time to give yourself enough time to prepare and perform the ritual properly. Second, ensure you have plenty of space to walk around freely and for others who may join you in the ceremony. And finally, prepare the sage (or other incense), matches or a lighter, a bowl or basket for the ashes from the sage, water for cleansing, and anything else you want to include in your ceremony.

Conducting a Smudging Ritual: Step-by-Step Guide

Smudging is a simple yet powerful ritual. Following a few basic steps, you can conduct your smudging ceremony at home.

Prepare Your Herbs

Select the herbs you want to use for the ceremony, such as sage, sweetgrass, or cedar. Make sure that the herbs are of good quality and are ethically sourced.

Create a Safe Environment

Make sure there are no open flames, flammable materials, or other hazards nearby — open windows and doors to allow the smoke to circulate freely.

Light Your Herbs

Use a match or a lighter to light one end of the herbs. Blow out the flame, so the herbs begin to smolder and release smoke.

Set Your Intention

Before you begin smudging, take a moment to set an intention for the ceremony. It could be something like “clearing negative energy” or “promoting peace and tranquility.”

Begin Smudging

Use a feather or a fan to waft the smoke around yourself or the room. Start at the front door and work around the room, reaching every corner and crevice. Take your time and be mindful of your intention as you go.

Finish the Ceremony

Once you have finished smudging, take a moment to ground yourself. It is a good practice to thank the herbs and the spirit of the herbs you’ve used and put the flame out properly with water or by covering it with sand.

Rejoice and Enjoy the Fresh, Clean Energy in Your Space

It’s important to note that smudging is a ceremonial practice. Some cultures have specific customs and rituals for smudging, so respect and follow any guidelines from cultures or spiritual traditions if you are from or align with any. Following these steps, you can conduct your smudging ceremony and experience the benefits.

Choosing the Right Sage for Your Smudging Ritual

Choosing the right sage for your smudging ritual is important. That’s why we’ve put together products that would suit you.

The Gaggler’s Picks

Smudging tools

MOTION TRADING

White Sage

AED 36.00

The White Sage from Motion Trading has a soothing, unwinding scent that purifies the air around you and clears the area of unwelcome energies. It is utilised as a cleansing, blessing, purification agent, antibacterial, antioxidant, and anti-inflammatory. This white sage is perfect for smudging and spiritual purification. It promotes relaxation and helps to clear your energy field.

colorful sage

MOTION TRADING

7 Chakra Sage

AED 55.00

The 7 Chakra Sage from Motion Trading is a colourful smudge stick lined with seven colour-dyed flowers perfect for spiritual purification. This smudge stick is known to assist in bringing balance to your physical and spiritual love. It can cleanse your being or space, promote healing and wisdom, and provide spiritual purification.

red sage

MOTION TRADING

Dragon Blood Sage

AED 75.00

The Dragon Blood Sage from Motion Trading is a type of sage used in rituals and ceremonies for cleansing, protection, and taking away negative energies. It has a powerful protection property and is antibacterial. Dragon blood sage is perfect for smudging and spiritual purification that promotes relaxation while reducing daily stress.

Enhancing Your Smudging Practice with Crystals and Other Tools

Try using crystals and other tools that resonate with you to enhance your smudging practice. We recommend using the following crystals and other things:

Shell

MOTION TRADING

Natural Smudging Shell

AED 50.00

The Natural Smudging Shell from Motion Trading is perfect for incorporating into your smudging rituals. It has a pearlised shine on the inside, which promotes tranquility, increases your feelings of purity, and enhances your ability to express your emotions.

Bracelet

MOTION TRADING

Labradorite Bracelet

AED 66.00

If you’re looking for a way to incorporate crystals into your life, start with the Labradorite Bracelet from Motion Trading. Labradorite beads are known as purifiers of current energies, and they support connection with the energy of light — leading you toward your higher purpose. They calm an overactive mind and open the mind to new ideas and approaches. They also strengthen and protect the aura and rejuvenate your mind.

quartz

MOTION TRADING

Clear Quartz with Stand

AED 60.00

Clear Quartz from Motion Trading enhances your mental clarity, helps with your emotional stability, and promotes light and positivity. It will help you create more focus and clarity around desire. It increases your concentration, supports a balanced outlook, and amplifies your intuition.

Incorporating Smudging into Your Daily Life

Smudging is a powerful ritual that can help you purify and cleanse your energy, as well as your physical space. It’s a simple yet effective way to bring balance and harmony into your daily life. By incorporating smudging into your daily routine, you can create a sacred space within yourself and in your home, allowing you to connect with your spiritual self and bring a sense of peace and tranquility into your daily life.

Smudging can be done in the morning to start your day with clear and positive energy, or in the evening to release any negative energy from the day and prepare for a restful night’s sleep. You can use traditional herbs such as sage, sweetgrass, cedar, palo santo, incense, smudge sprays, or even smudge sticks found in most spiritual or new-age stores.

Smudging is also way to honour and connect with the natural world. It’s an ancient practice that has been used for centuries by many cultures. It can help you reconnect with your spiritual self and to connect with the natural world more deeply.

By taking a few minutes each day to smudge, you can create a sense of peace and tranquility in your daily life and help keep your spiritual connection alive and well.


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Everything You Never Knew About Crystal Healing

Unlock the key to radiating positive energy.

For centuries, crystals have been used for healing by utilising their innate frequencies. These beautiful semi-precious gems formed in the heart of the earth use their unique frequencies – based on their molecular structure – to help unblock our energy centres and recharge them, helping us work at an optimal level to bring in positive changes to our lives.

Crystals are formed in the deep layers of the earth under high pressure and heat. When they come together, their structure forms a crystalline shape or grid. As they form under high pressure, their atoms are packed tightly and vibrate at a certain frequency. The minerals and fibres that are trapped in the formation of a crystal is what gives each of them their unique colour and texture. To understand how crystal healing works, we first need to understand a little bit more about our energetic body.  

Our energetic body is made up of energy centres, and there are seven main energy centres (also known as chakras) that move and vibrate at a certain level to help maintain our energy field at an optimal level. These seven energy points vibrate at their own frequency and have their own assigned colours and functions. Think of them as a pipeline through your body, starting from the top of your head to the base of your spine. When they are working in harmony with each other and energy is flowing through all of them, our energetic body or aura is strengthened and we are not only protected, but also give off a positive energy that in turn attracts the same energy towards us. 

When any one of our energy centres are blocked, it affects the surrounding centres, causing us to feel less than our optimal selves. Energetic blocks are caused by many factors including self-limiting beliefs, fear of failure or other innate fears, emotional or mental trauma, societal conditioning, and even electromagnetic frequencies from laptops and phones.

Each crystal vibrates at a different frequency, and their vibrations are based on the way their atoms and molecules move within each of their unique structures. These then interact with our vibrations to balance our energy, dissipating blocks and raising our energetic frequencies. As each crystal has its own energetic function based on its structure and colour, different crystals are used for the corresponding energy centre. 

During a session, all energy centres should be worked on as they are all connected. For example, you may have just gone through a tough break-up and are not sure how to move forward. Understandably, you might be angry and upset. These emotions will create a block in your heart chakra, which is located between your ribs. This block will flow into your solar plexus, located just below the heart chakra, two fingers above the navel. This is your ‘gut’, your self-confidence and decision-making centre. This, in turn, affects the energy centres below it as well. 

The reason we use crystals is because crystals maintain and have a standard, unwavering frequency unlike human beings, whose frequencies waver depending on their emotions. Crystals, therefore, are great tools to help balance our energies if we are unable to do this by ourselves.

A crystal healing session is usually an hour long. As a crystal healing practitioner, I like to start sessionswith my clients with an informal chat so that I can get to know a little bit more about their mental and physical well-being, issues that they are struggling to get through, and any trauma that they might have recently endured. I always encourage my clients to share as much information as they feel comfortable sharing as this helps me choose the appropriate crystals to aid in their healing.

I then ask my clients to lay down and relax while I place the crystals on them. Apart from placing the crystals on their bodies (this is a no-touch healing therapy), I use affirmations, visualisation, and intuitive healing to activate the crystals to give them a specific purpose. I also ask my clients to use positive affirmations as well as visualise what blocks they want to release and what they want to bring into their lives. A crystal healing session is very calming and meditative, and clients often leave with a sense of peace and clarity. You can see changes in one session, though, it is recommended that you do follow-up sessionsin the case of deep energetic blocks. 

Crystal healing helps in rebalancing our energy points by removing negative emotions like anger, fear, guilt, and shame, and works alongside medical treatments for major physical ailments to help accelerate them. Crystals help give us a sense of clarity by clearing out the blocks that stop us from moving forward and allow us to be more aware of ourselves so that we can feel what brings us joy and what we need to avoidmore clearly. If you are new to the healing magic of crystals, here are four powerful varieties for beginners to experiment with. 

Clear Quartz

It is the easiest crystal to programme as it has a very high vibration and works well with all the chakras. Clear quartz amplifies your energy and whatever intention is put into it, thereby opening your energy centres and clearing your blocks. It also aids in restful sleep, relieves headaches, and enhances concentration.

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Clear Quartz with Stand

AED 60.00

Clear quartz is said to improve mental clarity and emotional stability, as well as increase focus and clarity in achieving desires. It also is thought to bring light and positivity, improve concentration, promote a balanced outlook, and enhance intuition.

Rose Quartz

Rose quartz is a powerful crystal that connects to the heart chakra, removing blocks and regenerating the energy centre to not only help us receive love, but also learn how to love ourselves. It opens us up to give and receive compassion and teaches us how to deal with people and situations with more empathy.

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Rose Quartz Bracelet

AED 45.00

Rose quartz is known as a healing crystal and the stone of love, empathy, and truth. It is believed to emit strong vibrations that promote self-love, confidence, and compassion. Wearing a rose quartz bracelet is thought to help with matters close to the heart, open the heart to unconditional love, and restore trust and harmony in relationships with oneself and others.

Tiger’s Eye

Connected to the solar plexus – one of our strongest energy centres – this crystal helps us build our intuition by connecting it to where we feel it in our body (the ‘gut feeling’) and regain self-confidence, trust our intuition, and set personal boundaries. 

Citrine

Often known as “the merchant’s stone” as it aids in bringing abundance and prosperity, Citrine is also the crystal of happiness. It doesn’t just work by clearing out blocked energy – it works by rebalancing our energy centres to put in a more positive attitude.

MOTION TRADING

Citrine Bracelet

AED 50.00

A citrine bracelet is said to have healing properties that can help with emotional balance and clarity. It’s a beautiful and versatile piece of jewellery that can add a pop of colour to your outfit. Plus, citrine is said to bring prosperity and abundance to the wearer.

Incorporating crystals into your daily life can be done by wearing them, such as with a citrine bracelet. Citrine, also known as the “Lucky Merchant’s Stone,” is believed to promote positivity, self-esteem, and confidence, and aid in manifesting your dreams and desires. Additionally, it is said to bring in bright energies and enhance mental clarity.

New age healing methods based on crystals and improving energy flow around the body are helping people improve their lives in many ways. Read more in our Wellness section.

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A Beginner’s Guide to Meditation at Home

Everything you need to successfully start meditating at home.

In our fast-paced, constantly-connected world, finding ways to relax and de-stress is more important than ever. We’re constantly bombarded with notifications, emails, and calls, and finding a moment of peace can be tough. That’s where meditation comes in.

If you’re new to meditation or have been meaning to start a regular practice but don’t know where to begin, this guide is for you. Meditation is a brief respite from the chaos of the world, a chance to clear your mind and just be. 

The practice of meditation can take many forms, but the goal is always the same: to still the mind and achieve a state of relaxation. And the benefits are well worth the effort. Studies have shown that meditation can help to reduce stress and anxiety, improve sleep, and boost cognitive performance.

Getting Started with Meditation

One of the great things about meditation is that it can be done anywhere, anytime. That said, finding a space in your home that is quiet, comfortable, and free from distractions is important. If possible, try to find a room or area that you can dedicate solely to meditation; that way, whenever you enter that space, your mind will automatically begin to calm down and centre itself. 

If you don’t have an entire room you can use for meditation, that’s perfectly fine — any quiet corner will do. Just make sure to remove any clutter or distractions from your chosen space before starting your session. You might also want to dim the lights or light some candles to create a peaceful atmosphere. Finally, sit comfortably on the floor or in a chair with your spine straight and your eyes closed. Once you’re settled in, you’re ready to begin meditating.

When it comes to forming new habits, one of the most important things is consistency. The same goes for meditation. To make meditation a part of your daily routine, aim to meditate at the same time each day. That could be first thing in the morning before starting your day, during your lunch break at work, or right before bedtime. 

It’s also helpful to keep things simple in the beginning. Don’t try to meditate for hours on end; start with just five or 10 minutes of mindfulness each day. As you get more comfortable with the practice, you can gradually increase the length of your sessions. 

Remember: the goal is not necessarily to reach some higher state of consciousness; simply being present and aware of your thoughts and surroundings is enough. 

The Gaggler Picks for Top Meditation Essentials

To further set the mood, the Gaggler lists all the essential items to help you get started on your journey to enlightenment.

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PALM LIGHTS

7 Chakra Candle Tealights

AED 180.00

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SAANTE

7 Chakra Balancing Pillow & Room Spray

AED 95.00

SAINE

Lemongrass Essential Oil Spray

AED 85.00

RUT ESSENTIALS

Earth Ceramic Diffuser

AED 37.00

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C&S ACTIVE

Ecosoft Bra

AED 180.00

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C&S ACTIVE

Ecosoft Short

AED 160.00

EARTHISTIC

Mantra Banana Meditation Mat

AED 180.00

PALM LIGHTS

Sandalwood Artisanal Incense Sticks

AED 50.00

With all these items on hand, you’ll be well on your way to creating the perfect meditation space in your home. Just remember to keep it simple — less is more when it comes to designing your space. The most important thing is that it feels peaceful and calming so that you can fully relax and enjoy your practice.

The Gaggler team is passionate about finding and sharing great products with our readers. We take pride in researching and testing products to find the best of the best, and we only recommend things that we love and think you will too. 

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6 Wellness Must-Haves for a New Year Reset

Take a look inside our Wellness Editor’s cart.

Reset. Renew. Revive. These are my personal intentions for the new year and, as 2023 gets well underway, I’m sharing some of the things I have my eye on in January to help me on my journey.

Mahnoor Bari
Junior Editor

Mahnoor Bari is Gaggler’s resident junior editor with a background in digital journalism and communications. She loves dessert a little too much and mainly writes about food, culture, and wellness.

Wellness Editor’s Must Haves: January Edit

To start with, there’s the Amber Salt Lamp, which reminds me of my roots and childhood road trips through Himalayan salt mine country, and will help my sinuses in the upcoming allergy season this spring with its room-cleansing properties. Then there’s the Vaastra Diamond Sambu Grass Yoga Mat — complemented by the Palm Lights Sandalwood Artisanal Incense Sticks — to set the stage and mood for my yoga sessions at home.

And then there’s our upcoming Gaggler event, Reclaim Your Career. If you are looking to re-establish yourself after a career break and feeling a little rusty, this is the perfect forum to equip yourself with the essential tools and confidence to stride confidently back into the workplace. And speaking of workplace, I’m also eyeing the Saine Wooden Reflexology Massager to keep under my desk for those much-needed breaks.

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Amber Salt Lamp

AED 140.00

Available in two sizes: small and large

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Wooden Reflexology Massager

AED 185.00

Give yourself a needed break while sitting at your desk working or reading.

EARTHISTIC

Vaastra Diamond Sambu Grass Yoga Mat

AED 180.00

The straws and cotton together offer an improved grip for practicing asanas.

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January 25, 2023: Reclaim Your Career

AED 250.00

The perfect forum to equip yourself with the essential tools to stride confidently back into the workplace.

SAINE

Deep Sleep Buckwheat Pillow

AED 65.00

By flawlessly adapting to your body’s needs and gently massaging your neck, it will stabilise your spine, head, and neck region.

PALM LIGHTS

Sandalwood Artisanal Incense Sticks

AED 50.00

The scent of sandalwood is subduedly earthy and woodsy, made from genuine Mysore Sandalwood powder.

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In Conversation with Isabella Goeres

The founder of Saine talks health and healing.

In today’s world, it’s sometimes hard to focus on the things that make us feel good, but what if we could add a dose of wellness to our lives that would enrich us in ways we never thought possible? That’s where wellness comes in. Wellness is about taking care of yourself.

It’s about being in tune with your body and mind, and knowing what you need to be at your best. Wellness is about taking time for yourself and ensuring you have the energy to care for your family and friends. It’s knowing that you’re looking out for your mental health as much as your physical health. It’s about being present in your life and taking time every day to connect with yourself and those around you.

Because you’re a mere human, you need to treat yourself right. It’s easy to get caught up in the hustle and bustle of life, but it’s essential to take time out for yourself to stay healthy and happy. And when it comes to maintaining your wellness routine, it’s crucial to ensure that your mind and body get the attention they deserve. Furthermore, there’s a lot we can do to improve our overall well-being. We can eat healthier, exercise more, and sleep better. But as necessary as those things are, there are also tools that can help us on our journey.

One such tool is the products by Saine, a wellness brand devoted to promoting wellbeing. It offers pure and natural products, bringing you closer to your roots. Developed over generations, it carries traditional wisdom in a modern, minimalistic aesthetic. It can be hard to take care of ourselves in our busy lives. We are constantly bombarded with messages telling us what we should be doing and buying, but often, we don’t have time for it all. That’s why Saine offers products that give back some of your time by making it easier for you to take care of yourself.

Conversation with Isabella Goeres

Isabella Goeres started Saine in April 2021 after moving to Dubai from her home country of Switzerland. She was used to working in the fashion industry, but as a nature lover, she missed her connection to nature in the transition. To help her reconnect with nature, she started practising yoga intensely and sewing products that would enhance her well-being, which soon became favourites among her friends and family.

After some time, Isabella decided to create Saine and give more people in Dubai the possibility of using natural wellness products in order to improve their wellbeing. Her vision is to reconnect people with nature through simple but effective products that make them feel good about themselves (and their surroundings). We sat down with Isabella, getting to know her better and tapping her insights as an entrepreneur.

What motivated you to pursue Saine?

At Saine, we believe in the power of natural ingredients to make people happier and feel better. Our products are pure and natural, bringing you closer to your roots. We’re proud to be able to provide such an essential service: helping people realise their potential and live a life they love.

We know that everyone has a dream, but so many of us never get around to realising it because we’re too busy taking care of everyone else. Our products are designed to help you take care of yourself for once – to ensure that you can give yourself what you need without feeling guilty about it!

What’s the inspiration behind Saine products?

I decided to create/sell this product because I believe that the healing power of nature is something that we need to pay more attention to. We are currently observing a trend towards natural products and healing techniques. People are more aware of how they can improve their health by eating healthier foods, living more consciously, and looking after themselves naturally.

Saine products support this lifestyle by offering what nature already provides us in a very stylish and minimalistic way. Our products are produced locally with only natural ingredients. And their wisdom has been passed down from generation to generation. This is what I wanted to create: traditional healing in a state-of-the-art and eco-friendly way.

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How do Saine products enrich the lives of its users?

Saine products are made from the purest of materials, each to help you in your own way. Though different, they all share the same values: natural ingredients, wisdom, and durability. Saine products can be used for years because everything is washable, and the fabrics and colours are carefully chosen for their high quality.

Our essential oils and sprays are crafted safe for your skin and the environment. The result of all this hard work is a product that promotes wellness because it makes you feel close to nature, giving you a greater sense of connection with your roots and traditions.

What is your vision of success?

In my business, success is when people come back to me saying that they love my products for different reasons. And that my products are making a difference in their lives. This is what I strive for every day. My goal is to make sure that every person who uses my product feels like they’re getting the best care possible and that they have access to quality products at affordable prices. I want my customers to know that what they buy from me will be worth it.

How does Saine stand out from the crowd?

What makes Saine different is our commitment to purity and natural ingredients. Our products are free from harsh chemicals and synthetic fragrances, so you can feel good about using them. In addition, we only use sustainable and ethically sourced ingredients, so you can be sure that your purchase supports a responsible business. 

Saine has the power to help you live a better life by giving you a hand with your health and well-being needs. We are committed to providing quality products that support your wellness. We believe that when you feel good physically, mentally, and spiritually, you can achieve anything! The Saine product concept was relatively unknown in Dubai when it started. It’s a new product range that customers here have yet to experience fully.

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What does wellness mean to you?

Wellness is the state of being happy, healthy, and functioning at your best. When we have a positive outlook on life, we feel better. When we feel good about ourselves, we tend to be more productive and efficient in our everyday lives. When you are healthy and happy, you can enjoy all aspects of life more fully.

You can focus on your work without feeling sick or tired all the time. You will have more energy for socialising with friends and family members without having to make excuses for not wanting to go out because you’re too tired from working hard during the day. We know that feeling good is the best way to live. And with wellness tools like Saine products, we’ll be on our way to feeling better than ever. 

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Monica Malhotra: What’s in My Bag

The CEO of Gaggler reveals her essentials.

In today’s world, being a woman is no simple task. We’re expected to have the ability to multitask with the best of them. We’re also expected always to be ready for whatever comes our way – whether it’s an unexpected meeting at work or an urgent matter in the family.

Being a woman, we must juggle the roles of mother, wife, and career woman. These roles constantly demand our attention, and we’re always on the go, always trying to do more. One woman who fits this description is Monica Malhotra, the CEO of Gaggler. In the business world, she’s always on the move.

I bumped into Monica recently, and I was so excited that she agreed to let me look inside her bag! I had a chance to chat about what she carries with her every day to keep her on point. Here’s what I found out…

Feeling Good

As someone occupied 24/7, Monica knows that aches and pains can make even the most ambitious person’s day drag. To keep up with her busy schedule, she keeps a Big Hug Self-Heating Patch by Popmask on standby at all times. These patches help her get on with her day. They’re easy to carry, so she can use them anywhere – in the office, at home, or even on the go!

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Big Hug Self-Heating Patch

Staying Calm

Monica is an avid believer in the therapeutic power of essential oils, so she always keeps Tea Tree Oil by Rut Essentials in her bag. Her favourite way to use this oil is with an earth ceramic diffuser – it’s portable so she can take advantage of her essential oils in whatever space she’s in. Tea Tree oil is antibacterial, antifungal, antioxidant, and anti-inflammatory.

Earth Ceramic Diffuser & Tea Tree Essential Oil

Setting the Scene

The 7 Chakra Balancing Spray by Saante is another essential part of Monica’s daily routine. This spray helps purify her space and rejuvenate her mind by reducing feelings of agitation, anxiety, and sluggishness.

When she’s at work, it helps her refocus and stay calm in a busy environment. Monica says, “It’s important for me to set up my day right so that I can tackle any obstacles that may come my way.” And when she’s home, she loves using this spray to help her relax. 

7 Chakra Balancing Room Spray

Staying Healthy

Monica likes to stay hydrated and healthy, so she always carries Exotic Glam Immunity Tea by Namastea with her. These tea bags contain a combination of black tea, strawberry oil, and graviola oil, which help boosts immunity and contribute to more radiant skin.

She recently took the time to share her thoughts about these tea bags: “I love them! They’re great for when I’m feeling a bit rundown and just brighten me somehow.”

Exotic Glam Immunity Tea

Snacking Right

As a busy woman, Monica knows that eating right and taking care of her skin go hand-in-hand, so she always packs a Good Mood Cookie by Beauty Treats for when she’s feeling hungry (and when she isn’t).

Combining the antioxidant powers of vitamin C powder and chia seeds with the hydrating benefits of coconut oil, these cookies are the perfect on-the-go solution for glowing skin and healthy nutrition for the modern-day woman.

Good Mood Cookie

Sipping Sustainably

Monica also carries her water in her Mandala Copper Bottle by Earthistic when on the go. She’s long been a believer in the antibacterial properties of water stored in copper bottles. Monica cautions though, “Don’t keep your water in a copper bottle constantly. The recommended 6-8 hours is all you need to receive the optimal benefits of copper’s antibacterial properties. Storing it longer may lead to copper toxicity that can cause issues.”

Monica suggests filling your copper bottle before going to bed and you’ll have perfectly charged copper water in the morning!

Mandala Full Print Copper Bottle, Earthistic

Monica’s Parting Advice

Through my chat with Monica, I learned that being an empowered businesswoman doesn’t mean we should stop taking care of ourselves. It’s more crucial that despite the hustle and bustle we always find time for self-care. As a woman whose always on the go, it’s easy to get caught up with all the tasks and forget to take care of our bodies. But as we all know within, there’s nothing more important than health!

It’s also important to remember that self-care is not selfishness. When you’re feeling great, it shows in all aspects of your life too – you’re more productive, you have more energy for projects that feel impossible to tackle, and you are better equipped to handle any curveballs thrown your way during stressful times – at work or home.

Monica left us with this thought to ponder: “I think one of the best ways to empower yourself is by taking care of your health and well-being. It’s essential that you always make time for yourself, no matter how busy you get with work or your children’s school or whatever else happens in your life, even if it’s just a few minutes throughout the day.”

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Feeling Lost? Consider These Life Coaches in Dubai

And find your perfect fit.

The demand for life coaching is constantly growing and finding the right one may be challenging. An excellent life coach can guide you through a transformational journey to help you improve your life, achieve your personal and professional goals, and become the best version of yourself.

Getting a life coach involved to help with reaching your goals can help to give you a neutral outsider’s perspective on where you can do better in your life – whether that’s incorporating better habits, changing the way you think about problems or certain aspects of your life, or supporting you with building concrete strategies to achieve your goals. Here, we reveal some of the best Dubai-based life coaches who truly impact people’s lives with their work.

1. LIVVITY – Maximize Your Wellbeing by Szilvia Vitos

Szilvia Vitos is a certified transformational life and wellness coach specialising in leadership and emotional intelligence coaching. She’s the founder and general manager of LIVVITY – Maximize Your Wellbeing. Szilvia stepped into the health and wellness industry following her passion after 15 years of corporate experience in various executive management roles in the logistics industry.

Today, she loves working with people and organisations to help them achieve their goals, and is recognised for her outstanding leadership and mentoring skills that are practised in Fortune 500 companies. Her transformational leadership skills have had a remarkable impact on the teams she was responsible for in big corporations, and she is passionate about sharing her knowledge and mentoring other leaders for success.

Besides leadership, Szilvia has always been passionate about living a healthy lifestyle, and she combines these skills in her life coaching practice for long-lasting, maximum results. With her holistic approach, she ensures that the root cause of the underlying issue is being identified and resolved. When working with organisations, her areas of expertise are transformational leadership and employee engagement (well-being). As for individuals? She helps leaders elevate their lifestyle, ignite the energy flow, and increase productivity as a direct impact.

Szilvia Vitos, 055 123 3223, [email protected], livvity.coach

2. Self-Driven Life Coaching by Aida Uzunovic

Aida Uzunovic is a certified personal and business coach, NLP coach, and timeline therapist, helping her clients to become self-driven. Her coaching covers a variety of problems ranging from relationships to anxiety and depression. She spent 17 years working in finance, legal, and analytics, after which she explored the rewarding world of coaching and changed her career to inspire people and change lives.

Aida Uzunovic, 058 589 1469, [email protected], self-driven.coach

3. Venture with Farah

Farah is a certified life coach and NLP practitioner based in Dubai. She may be the right life coach for you if you’re feeling stuck and looking for guidance on how to move forward, want to break free from external expectations, or looking to heal from toxic relationships. Farah has always been passionate about understanding how others think and view things.

Farah, [email protected], www.venturewithfarah.com

4. Sabine Therapies

As a spiritual life coach and certified NLP and RSCI coach, Sabine Poncelet helps clients navigate challenges, find deeper meaning, align with their soul purpose, and move towards their dreams. Some of the main areas where Sabine may be able to help you are: releasing judgements and negative self-talk, developing healthy relationships, understanding your true purpose, and navigating difficult life challenges.

Sabine Poncelet, 052 713 7052, [email protected], www.sabinetherapies.com

5. Rania Hatoum

Rania Hatoum is a certified co-active life coach and focuses on the “being” and “doing” aspects of her clients’ lives. Her passion is to not only help people realise their life purpose, but also motivate them to achieve the highest expression of it. Rania’s life purpose is to help people find their inner calling and live joyful, fulfilled lives.

Rania Hatoum, [email protected], raniahatoum.org

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Understand These Needs As You Prepare for Parenthood

Before you learn all things baby, learn all things YOU!

So you have the cot, the pram, the high chair, some super cute outfits, and a squillion other gadgets recommended by family, friends, social media, and Google. Full disclosure: my favourite gadget was the snot sucker – just saying! The satisfaction of clearing those tiny little nostrils was hard to beat. However, how prepared are you mentally?

When my son was born in 2017, I was 41 years old and thought I knew all there was to know about becoming a parent. After all, we had been trying for a family for three years. We had a great marriage, lived in a beautiful town in Montenegro, and had no major stresses in our life. We were not naive to the challenges that would come along – the lack of sleep, the responsibility of caring for this new person, and the isolation of living overseas away from both of our families were all factors we were very well aware of.

Yet, nothing prepared me (or my husband) for the postpartum depression that enveloped me in those first 18 months. See, here’s the problem: if well-meaning people try to share the challenging details of pregnancy, childbirth, and parenting, then they are scaremongering. And if they do not disclose the reality faced by many, then they are hiding the truth and sugarcoating the whole thing. You can’t win, really. The best advice I can give you is before you learn all things baby, learn all things YOU.

As a new mother, you have a lot to learn. Diapers, bottles, and baby food are just the beginning. It can be easy to get so caught up in caring for your little one that you forget to take care of yourself. However, self-care is essential for new moms. After all, you can’t be your best for your baby if you’re not taking care of yourself. So what do you need to do to take care of yourself? Start by learning about the six human needs. Once you understand what you need to feel fulfilled, you can start making sure those needs are met. Only then will you be able to give your baby the best of yourself.

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The Six Human Needs

During the last five years, I have literally lived and breathed maternal mental health and personal development. Upon receiving much-needed support from a counsellor, a doctor, and a life coach when my son was 18 months old, I experienced a pivotal moment where I felt compelled to help other families navigate these waters.

I have realised that while it is quite easy to access information relating to hormone, physical, biological, and social changes, I did not find much guidance that directed me to personal development in order to prepare myself for this chapter in my life. What do I mean by that? Well, if you had asked me five years ago if I knew what the six human needs were, I would’ve said, “No, I do not.” I believe the problem lay in my inability to identify my needs and how to meet them best. They are:

  1. Certainty
  2. Variety
  3. Significance 
  4. Connection and love
  5. Growth
  6. Contribution

We each have these needs. However, we are all unique regarding the varying degrees to which they drive us. For example, I personally am driven by a need for certainty. I am very routine-oriented and systematic. I love schedules and plans. One of my best friends is the opposite. She is driven by a need for variety, always makes plans at the last minute, is unfazed if things are not done systematically, and struggles with routine. Interesting, right?

If I had an awareness and understanding of this at the time of my son’s birth, I believe that I would have been able to help myself more during those dark days. Since then, the personal development journey I embarked upon opened up many layers as to what was affecting my mental health. It was not that I did not feel connected to my son, as is often documented as a sign of postpartum depression.

These Needs As You Prepare For Parenthood

Checking In on Your Framework

When you begin to understand yourself fully, it can incite changes in all aspects of your life and none more so than during a huge transition, such as becoming a parent. It is common to immerse yourself in understanding best practices for the baby, such as feeding, sleeping, and potty training, but no one ever asks if you understand how to meet your own needs (or if you even know what they are).

We each have a unique framework in terms of how best to support ourselves based on our conditioning (upbringing), environment, belief systems, values, the things that bring us joy in our lives, the things that we are passionate about, and the expectations we have of not only our family and friends, but also ourselves.

When Was the Last Time You Checked In on That Framework?

Whether you are a parent or not, the fact remains that we evolve. What once made us feel good perhaps does not have the same effect anymore. Our tastes in music and books changes, the energy we share with others within our social groups shifts, and we can sometimes be wondering what actually makes us tick? What do I actually enjoy? What motivates me and makes me feel alive?

Completing the worksheets in the online programme Stepping Into Parenthood will see you and your family identify the answers to these questions. It will also open the narratives between you and create a visual tool to reflect upon and assist you with simple and easy-to-implement tips and tools that will help you to meet your own six human needs.

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Turning your attention to subjects such as budgets, careers, child care, the running of the household, and expectations of everyone within the family unit as you prepare for the arrival of your child will be way more valuable than only concentrating on the aesthetics of the Insta-worthy nursery. It amazes me how many people marry, have children, and yet avoid uncomfortable conversations surrounding things such as money.

If you aim to raise a child with integrity, honesty, respect, and an ability to communicate openly with others, then now is the time to take a look in the mirror and see if you are, in fact, displaying these values. As I said before, we are all a product of our upbringing, conditioning, and environment. So perhaps consider what you would like that to look like for your child/children? An example of this melted my heart last year when my son came home one day and exclaimed, “Aww, thanks mum!”

Confused, I asked, “What for?” He replied, “For hanging up the laundry and cleaning the dog hair from the couch!” After we stopped laughing at how random that seemed and how cute he was, we soon realised that he was following the example set by his dad and me. We are always vocal with our gratitude to each other, and our son is growing up in an environment where this level of respect and appreciation is fully transparent. By doing so, it also meets our own human needs of significance, love, and connection. Pretty cool, right?

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There are so many small yet impactful ways to meet our needs, and doing so will provide the foundation and stability required as you enter your next chapter as a parent. Often, when talking to clients, I can identify through the narrative that there is a human need not being met. That is often the root of the feelings of unease, anxiety, and depression commonly experienced by new parents.

Preparation in pregnancy, creating awareness, and a tool kit of best practices as to how to look after yourself mentally will have a domino effect as you parent, helping you to have clarity and understanding of yourself during this amazing part of your life. Yes, some parents indeed adjust with no adverse effects, but having this knowledge is a bit like having an airbag in a car. It’s not anticipated that we will need it, but it is good to know it is there if we do.

Nikki Steele Osborne is Dubai-based life coach specialising in postnatal depression. Visit www.thescottishsoulsister.com or @thescottishsoulsister for a consultation or more information.

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World Mental Health Day

How Are You (Really) Doing Today?

It’s okay to not be okay.

Today is World Mental Health Day, so now’s the time to pause what you’re doing and look inward. For the uninitiated,World Mental Health Day is the result of a global advocacy and awareness programme started by the World Federation for Mental Health back in 1992. As for its raison d’etre? Raising awareness around mental health and dispelling the stigma that surrounds it, with each year focusing on a specific aspect.

After all, research by WHO has revealed that some 450 million people across the globe have experienced some form of a mental health issue, and one in four individuals will develop a mental or behavioural disorder in their lifetime. This year’s theme is make mental health for all a global priority, reflecting how the events of recent years – the pandemic, forced displacement, and growing inequalities – have taken a toll on our collective mental health.

And then there’s the sheer volume of people who were struggling even before that; an estimated one in eight people globally was living with a mental disorder in 2019. In fact, knowing how to deal with our own mental health issues whilst supporting those closest to us who may be suffering even more is a challenge in itself. With support of paramount importance in a case like this, Gaggler tapped Aakanksha Tangri, founder of Dubai-based online mental health platform Re:Set, about the tools that can help those who are hesitant to seek help.

Re: Set’s Founder, Aakanksha Tangri
Aakanksha Tangri, founder ofRe:Set

Realise What It Takes to Really Help

Individual communities need to take steps to build a support group for family and friends, creating a safe space that allows for the freedom to express feelings without judgement. Mental health is not binary – it’s not about being sick or healthy. There is an in-between state where the signs and symptoms of mental disorders may not be obvious. According to Ayukta Thakur, co-founder of holistic center for young adults with special needs Integreat Center, statements like “don’t give up” and “just keep fighting” can actually stunt a person’s willingness to seek advice when going through mental health struggles.

The key to succeeding in your support is to stay diligent and aware of the state of your own and others’ mental health. It’s essential to make a habit of noticing when someone close to you is not feeling great and reaching out to them by showing support and providing encouragement to seek treatment, and vice versa. As a society, we should strive to pick up our fellow human beings. Something as small as checking up on your neighbour or colleague could have a beneficial effect on someone’s mental well-being by providing a reminder that someone is always there to listen.

World Mental Health Day 2022

Acceptance, Always

Our job as a community should be to encourage and embolden people to seek mental health support, normalise vulnerability, and destroy the illusion of a seemingly perfect state of mind. Loneliness has been found as a key link to severe mental health disorders. Providing people with a space to admit that they are not well – as well as open an honest dialogue about their emotional and mental state – is important in spreading acknowledgement and acceptance around mental health. 

Dubai-based clinical psychologist Dr. Catherine Frogely reminds us that it’s okay to admit that you’re not okay when speaking on the significance of normalising the need to seek therapy. “Talking about your feelings sets a good example and is a helpful strategy to make people feel comfortable when speaking about their mental health.”

World Mental Health Day – October 10th

Be a Part of the Change

“When we are sick with the flu or a stomach bug, we go to the doctor, take medicine, or seek natural remedies – so why do we not do the same when it comes to mental health?” asks Ayukta. It is through this realisation that it is absolutely critical to eradicating the stigma attached to mental health and seeking therapy. According to statistics from WHO, the UAE is currently behind the global average in terms of the number of psychiatrists and psychiatric beds per 100,000 population.

Spreading understanding and sharing stories around what it’s like to live with mental health challenges allows for in-depth and diverse discussions around key topics such as inclusivity, parenting, gender, and education, each pivotal in changing society’s perception of mental health issues. Creating a safe space while shedding light on topics that aren’t always brought to the forefront, but are important for the masses to address, is essential. Unlike physical health, mental health is not generally discussed publicly. And that needs to change today.

We need to adopt open communication on mental health challenges and assist others before a possible crisis arises. Our purpose is to provide a voice for everyday people to share their real-life experiences and ignite discussion – be that teachers, educators, counsellors, parents, students, children, people of determination, or family members. “It comes back to building awareness and education about the significance of mental health support. Also making the whole community open to talking about seeking therapy,” says Dr. Frogley. It is with this in mind that our mission is to start conversations and propose solutions, as well as guide and encourage education around tough topics to provide in-depth understanding, support, and resources for those in need.

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